Rush - What to NOT do or say

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by luv n tpa

Before adding PNMs on Facebook became taboo [aka when I rushed], sister from ABC sorority added me right away after their first party. I thought it was desperate and creepy. Ladies, show that you're interested, but don't stalk the PNMs.

And dearest PNMs, let me tell you a tale. Once upon a time, I was an affliliated Rho Chi [informal recruitment]. I was waiting for the second group of girls to arrive for their preference ceremony with TPA, when one girl and her friend were talking to me. And I quote, "I just came from ABC. It was awesome, I really like them. I don't really like TPA, they kinda suck. But I'm just going so people don't think that I'm a loser and only got one pref."

One more time, I was an affiliated Rho Chi. Yeah. End of that story.

D'oh!

Pray tell, did that girl get a bid anywhere?

[Thetagirl218]

Some of my pet peeves with PNMs during Formal.... (Disclaimer, I witnessed all of these!)

• Girls who walk into the recruitment party and trash talk my sorority in front of my face without even learning about it......I actually had one PNM tell me that XYZ said you were soft on some issue....Needless to say I was not happy, and I don't think that girl came back the next night.
• Girls who trash talk other sororities. I hate it when some PNMs think they are going to make themselves look good when they trash talk other sororities that they have already visited or have heard about. I always took offense to that as I had friends in all of the sororities on campus. One PNM even told me a soroities member's name who she has met and didn't like... Little did she know that that girl was a friend of mine....
• One time during recruitment, I had met a PNM who stared at my chest the entire time!!!! Now talk about feel unconformable.... Mind you I was wearing a collared shirt at the time.....I guess this girl was very nervous, but when she came back the next time she did the same thing to several of my sisters....weird...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Thetagirl218

[*] Girls who trash talk other sororities. I hate it when some PNMs think they are going to make themselves look good when they trash talk other sororities that they have already visited or have heard about. I always took offense to that as I had friends in all of the sororities on campus. One PNM even told me a soroities member's name who she has met and didn't like... Little did she know that that girl was a friend of mine....

This is terrible, and VERY awkward for the sorority member (even if she hates the other sorority's guts) because we're not supposed to talk about other sororities AT ALL - we can be penalized if we do - and because we don't want to "reprimand" the PNM. Rock and a hard place.