I'm an emotional wreck

[James]

Act as if you are no longer going out and live your life accordingly. You are no longer together.

Treat her with respect and courtesy but allow her to initiate contact for now, at least until you start establishing a single guy pattern.

A healthy dose of indifference could be exactly what she needs to put things in perspective. If she doesn't care that you are not around, you have an answer. If she does care she may realize she is losing you and stop playing weird mind games.

Edited to add: you are way to available to her. She isn't showing you anywhere near the same level of respect. I am offended that she has tortured you for a semester and I am not even you.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by James

Act as if you are no longer going out and live your life accordingly. You are no longer together.

Treat her with respect and courtesy but allow her to initiate contact for now, at least until you start establishing a single guy pattern.

A healthy dose of indifference could be exactly what she needs to put things in perspective. If she doesn't care that you are not around, you have an answer. If she does care she may realize she is losing you and stop playing weird mind games.

Edited to add: you are way to available to her. She isn't showing you anywhere near the same level of respect. I am offended that she has tortured you for a semester and I am not even you.

Yup.

It could be she's trying to get you to break up with her because she doesn't have the balls to do it herself. I know all about that, I did it. (I was 18, cut me slack.)

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by James

Edited to add: you are way to available to her. She isn't showing you anywhere near the same level of respect. I am offended that she has tortured you for a semester and I am not even you.

James is right on point...

I used to be in your same situation. I felt the same way you do about a guy and he never made me a priority and basically did everything in his power to "show" me that he needed his space. Finally after 2 years of an emotional roller coaster, I decided to just let him do his own thing. During that time, I met my husband and realized what it was like to be truly loved, appreciated, and respected. Once the old bf realized I had moved on, it was too late to get me back !

As other posters have mentioned, give her some space, but don't let life pass you by in the process. Hang out with some good friends, do things with the family over the holidays, or work-out.

[starang21]

do you.

if she comes back, then it's all good. but don't pine away. and don't wait. get a "friend"

LOL

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by starang21

do you.

if she comes back, then it's all good. but don't pine away. and don't wait. get a "friend"

LOL

you are a trip......lol....