Candle Passing??

[dukedg]

Lavaliered, etc. are terms related to relationship commitment levels between a girl in the sorority and a boy she is dating (or in theory a girl she is dating, I suppose). Anyway, a candle pass is handled by the rituals director who works under vp: programming. Here is one recent thread about how it works.

I'm wondering if you mean more of a candle pass that is done to talk about what each member is going through. We used to do those at chapter retreat (both my own chapter and the one I advised) and called them Hannah Passes because we each passed Hannah around. I believe this would be more of a vp: social standards job than the other candle pass.

Other DGs - do you know what I'm talking about? Maybe someone else on here can better explain it.

[WhiteDaisy128]

My chapter did candle passes for lavaliering and engagement too. A note is slipped to the director of rituals and then they announce it at the end of chapter. We stood in a circle and a lit candle was passed all the way around once (for friendship), then it was passed again...if you had just gotten lavaliered, you blow the candle out when it gets to you. It goes around a third time for engagement.

We also did firesides...where you pass a candle around (like at sisterhood retreat) and get to say whatever you want to the chapter with no one talking or interrupting.

I loved both special events!

[WhiteDaisy128]

Oh, a lavalier is when a fraternity man gives his girlfriend a necklace that has his fraternity letters on it (signifying that she is as important as his brothers). It's like a pre-engagement.

Pinning is when the fraternity man lets his girlfriend wear his fraternity badge. This is like a pre-engagement.