Potential?

[AlphaFrog]

I don't think she's trying to rationalize dating him at all. I think she's already ruled him out completely, and her older cousin is just trying to figure out why "nice guys finish last". I mean, that's really the situation - you have a young man with (it seems) all the potential in the world, with just some things that need to be worked on, and he's probably going to get passed over for some prettyboy or thug who's skating by on looks/intimidation/etc.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I mean, that's really the situation - you have a young man with (it seems) all the potential in the world, with just some things that need to be worked on, and he's probably going to get passed over for some prettyboy or thug who's skating by on looks/intimidation/etc.

That's dramatic.

He might just be passed up for the MANY men who are a total package and who aren't pretty boys or thugs. There are too many good catches out here for any ONE dude to think the sun rises on his ass just because he has "potential."

Tell him to spend his time working on making his "potential" a reality and leave the "nice guys with potential" rhetoric for women who give a damn. They are out there.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

That's dramatic.

He might just be passed up for the MANY men who are a total package and who aren't pretty boys or thugs. There are too many good catches out here for any ONE dude to think the sun rises on his ass just because he has "potential."

Tell him to spend his time working on making his "potential" a reality and leave the "nice guys with potential" rhetoric fo women who give a damn. They are out there.

DS has a "thing" for posting dramatic-type questions, and since he said that he meant this as more of a "for the sake of argument" rather than actual advice for his cousin, I'm pretty sure that's sort of what he's going for.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

DS has a "thing" for posting dramatic-type questions, and since he said that he meant this as more of a "for the sake of argument" rather than actual advice for his cousin, I'm pretty sure that's sort of what he's going for.

Yay.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I mean, that's really the situation - you have a young man with (it seems) all the potential in the world, with just some things that need to be worked on, and he's probably going to get passed over for some prettyboy or thug who's skating by on looks/intimidation/etc.

^^^ Pretty much in the ballpark....

But the question I am asking to try and move the conversation is, in your opinions, ladies, and gents if you have been there (some of us could give a damn about potential...LOL) what have you done or how have you handled someone in this situation that you may have considered dating?


Is it a challenge?

Is it something that you may want to stay around for the long haul ?

Or, do some of you prefer someone already there?

[Marie]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

But the question I am asking to try and move the conversation is, in your opinions, ladies, and gents if you have been there (some of us could give a damn about potential...LOL) what have you done or how have you handled someone in this situation that you may have considered dating?


Is it a challenge?

Is it something that you may want to stay around for the long haul ?

Or, do some of you prefer someone already there?

If I were in her same situation, then I would probably vote NO. I agree with Chaos...there are plenty of guys who will share her same path in life. Why try to 'work with' someone who has potential, when it seems likely that she can find exactly what she wants, which isn't much (her age or greater, in school, attends church). I'm sure he's a nice guy, but her decision doesn't seem unreasonable, esp. since she isn't looking for marriage. They can always reconnect in a few years when they are both more settled and established.