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Originally Posted by Drolefille
Off the top of my head the biggest is that there's a sense that it is sort of a "test" and not a commitment can lead to a couple simply breaking up instead of working on any problems. And that breaking up isn't as "simple" because you're sharing a space. Though this occurs in marriages as well, the sense of commitment tends to lead more people to work through problems and if they do divorce there's usually legal help involved.
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^--This is definitely the most common argument you hear about not moving in with someone. I won't dispute it because everyone deals with conflict differently. But as someone said previously, I would rather break up with a boyfriend/fiance than get divorced. (but I do totally respect those that make a decision based on personal values, that's a whole 'nother set of factors that can't -- or shouldn't -- be argued with)
The "we know we're getting married why are we paying 2 rents and cable bills" is one of the more common arguments for those that do move in. And I think it often comes down to where you are in your relationship. That's where hubby & I were, and honestly, I did want to "kick the tires" a bit to see how our living styles/money styles, etc., all would blend. Thus I am of the mindset of the post below:
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Originally Posted by chitownxo
My husband and I moved in together right after we got engaged. We looked at it as more of a money-saving thing than a test. After all, we were paying two rents, had two grocery, cable, electric, etc. bills, we thought it made more financial sense to combine all of that. It was a good thing for us -- even though we were practically living together before I officially moved to his place (we spent weeknights at my place, weekends at his), I didn't know all of his quirks, nor he mine. If we were to divorce, and I found Mr. Right Version 2.0, I'd do the same thing.
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