Dutch Couple Returns Adopted Child After 7 Years

[Educatingblue]

I watch the international adoptions sometimes on Adpotion Stories on Discovery Health and I often wonder if the American parents have any idea the challenges of raising a minority child. I understand they desperately want children, but a little research goes a long way.

I will never forget when I was 16 or 17 and worked at Publix supermarket and a lady went through my line with 2 childen. One was Asian sitting in the shopping cart (he was a little dirty and had on cheap shoes and clothes), and the other was a Caucasian baby sitting in his carrier (he was in a brand new carrier, he had on name brand stuff and looked very happy). I commented on how cute and well-behaved her children were...out of the blue she told me that she had adopted the older child and found out she was pregnant as soon as they got back. She then said.................................."I would not have gotten him if I knew we could have a baby!?!?!?!"

Needless to say, I was shocked and at a loss for words.

[carnation]

My husband and I, who are mostly white, have a large family and 5 of the kids are interracially adopted. They've done great--they've made us so proud with their scholastic and extracurricular achievements. We've celebrated their heritages while at the same time, we've made how a child arrived in this family a non-issue. Interracial/intercultural adoption has worked fabulously for us and we couldn't be happier!

[kathykd2005]

This story is just disgusting. This was a child, not a 2 year old pair of shoes, for God's sake! People can't just return children like damaged goods. The story mentions the "mother" having to receive therapy--but what about the poor little girl, who will have abandonment issues for the rest of her life? What a heinous and callous act.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Well, maybe it'll be for the best in the long run if nothing else. Maybe she'll go to a family in the Korean community (the ones who have allegedly been reaching out ot adopt her) from Hong Kong that will treat her as lovingly as she deserves to be treated. Maybe living with her adoptive parents was bad because obviously they don't treat her as if she were their child. So if it's anything like the prior story of the woman at the grocery store with her adopted baby in cheap clothes looking dirty, then it's definitelyfor the best. No one deserves to grow up like a second class citizen in their own home.

[DaemonSeid]

here is the real fun of it tho.....



The adopted her back then because THEY COULDN'T CONCEIVE.


NOW....they have 2 BIOLOGICAL children???


That convo musta gone something like this:


"Gee honey...we have 2 regular kids....what do we do with this third one?"

" I think we should be Green and recycle her..."

"Gee...you are so smart and environmentally friendly"

GRRRrrrrrrr...at least there are families already wanting to adopt this child......

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by carnation

My husband and I, who are mostly white, have a large family and 5 of the kids are interracially adopted. They've done great--they've made us so proud with their scholastic and extracurricular achievements. We've celebrated their heritages while at the same time, we've made how a child arrived in this family a non-issue. Interracial/intercultural adoption has worked fabulously for us and we couldn't be happier!

You hear so many horrible stories, it's so nice to hear a positive one like yours

[carnation]

Gracias!