i'm rushing spring 2008

[skylark]

Getting your heart set on a particular group is a sure-fire way to be disappointed come bid day. Read enough on this site and you will see that the group itself is not really all that important in order to have a great sorority experience. In the end, as long as you act genuine and like yourself in recruitment (as much as possible, at least) you will end up with a bid from a group who specifically wants YOU.

As far as getting worried over your minority status... any sorority that you would want to be a part of shouldn't be hung up on racism, right? So don't worry about it and have faith that the system will find you a place you belong.

Originally Posted by aeda

awww, thanks. i'm just so nervous and over analyzing everything. but i don't think it's rare that people have their heart set on something they want to be a part of. a lot it's from what you hear, their reputations and what not. ugh, i totally need to stop. and i've been trying to figure out how rushing works exactly. i've read a lot of these threads and every school seems pretty different. i just want to be prepared and know what's going to happen.

It's not rare at all. A lot of PNMs going into rush do the exact same thing. Many of them end up going through rush with an open mind, and then realize their "top houses" going in didn't really meet their own personal expectations, all this despite the house's reputations.

Every school is different when it comes to recruitment. That said, if you haven't already done so, adpiucf's General Advice thread is a good one to read.

[LegallyBrunette]

Originally Posted by aeda

awww, thanks. i'm just so nervous and over analyzing everything. but i don't think it's rare that people have their heart set on something they want to be a part of. a lot it's from what you hear, their reputations and what not. ugh, i totally need to stop. and i've been trying to figure out how rushing works exactly. i've read a lot of these threads and every school seems pretty different. i just want to be prepared and know what's going to happen.

Yes, you're right, you do need to stop.

Seriously though, it's not rare to have your heart set one group, but from reading threads on this board it should be pretty obvious that having that mindset can lead to disappointment. Also, I would strongly caution against paying much attention to reputations. Another common theme underlying tons of recruitment stories on here: Chapters are rarely, if ever, anything like their "reputations."

Good luck and keep us informed!

[KSUViolet06]

A lot of girls go into recruitment (rush) with their hearts set on a few sororities in particular. You are right when you say that you need to stop it. I suggest keeping an open mind to ALL of the sororities in rush because you never know what might happen.

For example, you could have your heart set on these 2 sororities, but they might decide (for whatever reason) not to invite you back. Then you'd be very hurt and disappointed. But if you keep an open mind, you wouldn't be that upset about it because you'd be like "well at least I have these other sororities to check out."

About the whole race thing, I rushed and joined my sorority through informal recruitment, and i'm Black. Honestly, you just have to be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

I suggest looking at some of the advice threads in the Sorority Recruitment forum. They have lots of good info.

Good luck!

[violetpretty]

My school has deferred recruitment as well. It's totally normal to have favorites going into recruitment! I fell in love with two chapters after the first round, but I didn't pledge either of them! One of them cut me and I changed my mind about the other one, but I wouldn't change a thing about my experience. I definitely ended up in the right chapter for me. Look for the positive in every chapter and keep your options as open as possible until you sign your bid card.

As for your race, it really depends on the campus. At my school, if anything, it'd be a slight plus since our chapters want to be diverse! Actually, my chapter's newest new member class has more racial and/or religious minorities than White Christians. Look at the existing makeup of the chapters, if they're diverse, race is probably no issue. But be yourself at all costs.