Military Spouses, Parents and Families

[amanda6035]

Sthrn, lord child, my heart feels for you. I have to agree with belle on the point that it's different to date and be crazy in love with a guy too. I certainly understand where you're coming from...and if you DO choose to discuss this with him, I'd say be very cautious. The last thing you want is for him to become defensive. Some guys think that a house and discussing the future is "good enough" but to many women, it still reeks of no guarantee and leaves you wondering if he's truly commited.

What about the idea of a promise ring? My husband I had been dating for a while, werent quite ready to get engaged, but knew that we wanted to one day. For Valentines day the first year we had been dating, we exchanged promise rings, it was a mutual choice, but we had fun shopping for them together. You can find nice ones for only a couple hundred bucks...and it satisfies that reminder that you're looking down at, and he would have one too.

[SthrnZeta]

Originally Posted by amanda6035

Sthrn, lord child, my heart feels for you. I have to agree with belle on the point that it's different to date and be crazy in love with a guy too. I certainly understand where you're coming from...and if you DO choose to discuss this with him, I'd say be very cautious. The last thing you want is for him to become defensive. Some guys think that a house and discussing the future is "good enough" but to many women, it still reeks of no guarantee and leaves you wondering if he's truly commited.

What about the idea of a promise ring? My husband I had been dating for a while, werent quite ready to get engaged, but knew that we wanted to one day. For Valentines day the first year we had been dating, we exchanged promise rings, it was a mutual choice, but we had fun shopping for them together. You can find nice ones for only a couple hundred bucks...and it satisfies that reminder that you're looking down at, and he would have one too.

Thank you, yes! Just because I'll be living in the house and be on title, still no guarantee history won't repeat itself (and yes, he knows all about that guy).

As for the promise ring, it's definitely an idea - haven't done it since high school, lol. But I'm curious, would you and he wear it on your right hand instead?

[amanda6035]

Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

Thank you, yes! Just because I'll be living in the house and be on title, still no guarantee history won't repeat itself (and yes, he knows all about that guy).

As for the promise ring, it's definitely an idea - haven't done it since high school, lol. But I'm curious, would you and he wear it on your right hand instead?

It's your choice. We wore them on our left. Mine was a simple white gold band with a couple of small diamonds and pink saphires. His was....really unique. It was actually like two bands that interlocked. It kinda looked like a yin yang symbol. When we got engaged, I moved my promise ring over to my right hand and wore them both. Now I just wear that ring whenever I'm wearing something pink and it matches. Haha.