DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Conskeeted7

I just had a funny experience today. An older white lady was in Sephora with her (assuming) grandkids who were black. The kids were playing in the makeup while grandmother was at the counter. They put foundation on that was about 4 shades lighter than their skin. When grandmother turned around and saw them, she said 'you 2 getting ready for Halloween?' The older girl (about 6 yrs. old) said 'we're pretty little white girls now.' The grandmother just took them and left. The sad thing is that I'm sure they've heard that from the adults they're around and they'll grow up feeling inferior because of it.

This little guy, is my nephew... His mother is caucasian and his father is Black and has a medium dark brown complexion like me. We all truly love this young man, but his mother refuses to accept his diverse heritage in both her interactions and friendships with various children. But, that is how his father, my brother, wanted it. My nephew actually has features reminscent to a combination of both my mother and father's and his mother families' genetics. The prominent features are his forehead and nose and some facial shaping that are distinctly AKA_Monet's family...

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

This little guy, is my nephew... His mother is caucasian and his father is Black and has a medium dark brown complexion like me. We all truly love this young man, but his mother refuses to accept his diverse heritage in both her interactions and friendships with various children. But, that is how his father, my brother, wanted it. My nephew actually has features reminscent to a combination of both my mother and father's and his mother families' genetics. The prominent features are his forehead and nose and some facial shaping that are distinctly AKA_Monet's family...

Can't see the pic..

[pretty edAKAted]

The first couple of days of school I was in the financial aid office and there was a young white girl with a mixed looking baby with her calling her mommy. the majority of the black guys that were in there started talking saying


" see that is why i want me a white girl so i can have some pretty children"

all of the other guys in the room followed saying

"yeah, man i know what you are talking about, that is a beutiful lil' girl"

Why do people think they have to get pregnant or have a baby by a white person in order to be considered beautiful. Why are they so afraid their children will be dark skinned? I think this is just ignorance and someone needs to raise thier children correctly without superficial thoughts like that.

[Animate]

Originally Posted by pretty edAKAted

The first couple of days of school I was in the financial aid office and there was a young white girl with a mixed looking baby with her calling her mommy. the majority of the black guys that were in there started talking saying


" see that is why i want me a white girl so i can have some pretty children"

all of the other guys in the room followed saying

"yeah, man i know what you are talking about, that is a beutiful lil' girl"

Why do people think they have to get pregnant or have a baby by a white person in order to be considered beautiful. Why are they so afraid their children will be dark skinned? I think this is just ignorance and someone needs to raise thier children correctly without superficial thoughts like that.

WoW!!! Those guys sound like they will be future daddies to multiple mothers.
I'll have beautiful kids cause I have the beautiful gene.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by Animate

WoW!!! Those guys sound like they will be future daddies to multiple mothers.
I'll have beautiful kids cause I have the beautiful gene.

Yup, we will see them on future episodes of Maury

[Conskeeted7]

Originally Posted by Animate

WoW!!! Those guys sound like they will be future daddies to multiple mothers.
I'll have beautiful kids cause I have the beautiful gene.

Exactly. My kids will be gorgeous for the same reason.

[southernelle25]

Originally Posted by pretty edAKAted

The first couple of days of school I was in the financial aid office and there was a young white girl with a mixed looking baby with her calling her mommy. the majority of the black guys that were in there started talking saying


" see that is why i want me a white girl so i can have some pretty children"

all of the other guys in the room followed saying

"yeah, man i know what you are talking about, that is a beutiful lil' girl"

Why do people think they have to get pregnant or have a baby by a white person in order to be considered beautiful. Why are they so afraid their children will be dark skinned? I think this is just ignorance and someone needs to raise thier children correctly without superficial thoughts like that.

Sure, they say that, but then they become upset when the children are born pure white in appearance or simply non-black, which is certainly possible given the already mixed heritage of most African Americans. I have read too many stories about black men abusing, emotionally and sometimes physically, their children (born of white women) for being "too light". I have seen posts online from men complaining because they thought their children would be born "with some color", i.e. "kinda light" with "good hair". These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves. Though I feel for the children, I can't help but laugh at those who roll the dice and lose.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves.

Totally off-topic, but I feel that this is a good time as any to remind our readers at home how fine Wentworth Miller is.

[darling1]

That is a fine man..lol. I went to school with him and he was adorable then and very sweet.

[Little32]

Originally Posted by darling1

That is a fine man..lol. I went to school with him and he was adorable then and very sweet.

I would just like to co-sign on Wentworth Miller's fineness.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Totally off-topic, but I feel that this is a good time as any to remind our readers at home how fine Wentworth Miller is.

Back off ladies, he is my next ex-husband! Yeah, he is hella fine

[IVY BEAUTY]

Originally Posted by Tyrese Turner

I like them light skinned honeys, you know what I'm sayin.

ok...........?????? :-)

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves. Though I feel for the children, I can't help but laugh at those who roll the dice and lose.

Exactly. And on the other hand a lot of mixed kids come out looking full black with nappy hair. Bet they don't count on THAT happening. At any rate though, since black people are so mixed up in the first place it really is just a toss up when it comes to how your kids will look.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

Sure, they say that, but then they become upset when the children are born pure white in appearance or simply non-black, which is certainly possible given the already mixed heritage of most African Americans. I have read too many stories about black men abusing, emotionally and sometimes physically, their children (born of white women) for being "too light". I have seen posts online from men complaining because they thought their children would be born "with some color", i.e. "kinda light" with "good hair". These men don't consider that their children may not look anything like what they expect racially, that they may find it difficult to relate to sons who more closely resemble Wentworth Miller or "the man" than themselves. Though I feel for the children, I can't help but laugh at those who roll the dice and lose.

You know I had no idea who that little boy is, nor his political "genetic inheritance"... Now that is funny...

My little nephew is gonna look JUST like homey when he grows up...

Anyhow, do you have any references to those stories you read? I just do not understand why bruhs would do that when it was exactly what they wanted? The alternative is SOME bruhs are misogynists--generally speaking and would beat any kind of woman and their children because of power issues and compensation.

[southernelle25]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You know I had no idea who that little boy is, nor his political "genetic inheritance"... Now that is funny...

My little nephew is gonna look JUST like homey when he grows up...

Anyhow, do you have any references to those stories you read? I just do not understand why bruhs would do that when it was exactly what they wanted? The alternative is SOME bruhs are misogynists--generally speaking and would beat any kind of woman and their children because of power issues and compensation.

Not off hand, as this is the kind of thing I usually just SMH at and move on. However, there was a custody case in Louisiana awhile ago that stands out because both parents were attorneys, McCorvey v. McCorvey. The father was outraged that his daughter was “too bright” and felt she needed to “to color up”, instead of remaining light skinned like her mother. The fact that the mother regularly exposed the child to "diversity" only made him worse. You can read all about it here:
http://www.la3circuit.org/opinions/2...05-0174opi.pdf