Recommendations?

[shannonnnnn]

i am new to this process as well. would the alumni not think it was rude if they found out you wanted a recommendation from other chapters too?

Originally Posted by shannonnnnn

i am new to this process as well. would the alumni not think it was rude if they found out you wanted a recommendation from other chapters too?

As long as you're not being openly rude and obnoxious about it, then I don't see why they would.

Alumnae know that PNMs should go through recruitment with an open mind and that they should give all houses a fair shot. Oftentimes you'll hear of alumnae putting a PNM in touch with their friends in other sororities in order to secure a recommendation for each sorority on her campus.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by shannonnnnn

i am new to this process as well. would the alumni not think it was rude if they found out you wanted a recommendation from other chapters too?

Not at all! I wrote a rec for a girl I went to high school with and I asked friends of mine from other sororities to write one for her for their sorority - I'd rather see her go Greek somewhere than not at all. I think it would be bad form if you told everyone that their sorority was your favorite, but otherwise it'd be no biggie.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by shannonnnnn

i am new to this process as well. would the alumni not think it was rude if they found out you wanted a recommendation from other chapters too?

At campuses where recs are needed to be competitive, I think it goes without saying that a PNM is going to try to get at least one rec for as many chapters as she can. Unless by "wanting a recommendation" you mean "wanting a recommendation because that chapter is your favorite and you make it known", no one should be offended that you're looking for recs from all chapters on your campus.

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by shannonnnnn

i am new to this process as well. would the alumni not think it was rude if they found out you wanted a recommendation from other chapters too?

Absolutely not. The alumnae know you are going through recruitment for all of the sororities. Our role is introducing you to our sorority, and recognizing that while you may or may not join our sorority, if we think enough of you to recommend you to our organization, you would be a good candidate for any of the NPC sororities. We all were in your shoes once upon a time and faced many choices. If you are someone we would recommend to our organization, we want you to have the most options possible so you can make an educated and informed choice.

Whenever I write a recommendation for a PNM, I always ask her how her recs are coming and what organizations are still outstanding so that I can put her in touch with alumnae in those groups.

Please send your recommender a thank you note once she has agreed to help you, and send her another follow-up once recruitment concludes. Whether or not your join her sorority or any sorority at all, recommenders like to hear back from you and share your excitement and know of your decision. We were all PNMs and then new members once upon a time!

[NPCLoyalty]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Absolutely not. The alumnae know you are going through recruitment for all of the sororities. Our role is introducing you to our sorority, and recognizing that while you may or may not join our sorority, if we think enough of you to recommend you to our organization, you would be a good candidate for any of the NPC sororities. We all were in your shoes once upon a time and faced many choices. If you are someone we would recommend to our organization, we want you to have the most options possible so you can make an educated and informed choice.

Whenever I write a recommendation for a PNM, I always ask her how her recs are coming and what organizations are still outstanding so that I can put her in touch with alumnae in those groups.

Please send your recommender a thank you note once she has agreed to help you, and send her another follow-up once recruitment concludes. Whether or not your join her sorority or any sorority at all, recommenders like to hear back from you and share your excitement and know of your decision. We were all PNMs and then new members once upon a time!

PERFECT! As a member of an APH, every single young woman, whom asks help, is immediately given the tools to set them up with every single chapter on their campus. It's true panhellenic spirit. The only way.