Sounds like you need to talk to older members. They can give you the answers better than we can, particularly since you are so new and you don't have all of the info.
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It's great that you want to jump right in and help your chapter...but your new member period is about sitting back, learning the climate of your chapter, and having fun while being fussed over by the rest of the chapter. Relax and enjoy your new member period. Let the actives worry about her, and if she comes back, let an active know what's going on, and they should be able to steer her away from you.
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