But why are the NPHC groups so ... different???

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by ealymc

I have a question now... when I transferred into my university, from a school with no Greeks whatsoever, I chose to go through Rush to see what was out there and meet some other students. One of the reasons that I chose Sigma Nu was because of the things I found out about them, the men I met, the entire experience I heard about, and the genuine brotherhood I felt was there. I was interested in the BGLOs as well, as a Black man, but getting information was SO FREAKIN' HARD not knowing anyone at the institution. I didn't even know how to go about finding out info about intake because of the secrecy surrounding everything. Kind of turned me off. My biological little brother is now in a similar situation. First year at a new school, knows only a few people... Any advice on how he can get the info he desires? Smalltown boys don't have plethora of active Greeks to draw information from...

Just two remarks to your statements. First, if you wanted to find out info about the NPHC frats, you could have; THOUSANDS of people apply to and cross in NPHC orgs every year. Secondly, the NPHC orgs did not offer the instant gratification that you were seeking because transfers students normally have to have a minimum number of credits AT THAT institution before applying; no fault, just reality.

As far as advice to your brother, I can't give any better that has already been given except that you share with him my remarks above.

[nikki1920]

He can start by just getting involved. We do stuff in other organizations as well. Check the national website of the org. Somewhere, somehow he can get in touch with someone who is a member. Each organization does hold informationals that are open for everyone to attend.

[Sugar08]

I agree with Nikki. He definitely needs to be visible on campus. Chances are, he'll meet some members of the frat by being involved in different groups ... and then his relationship with them can be a natural progression, rather than the forced "I reallllly wanna join your organization."

BTW: I'm glad this thread was resurrected. I'd never seen it before.

[ealymc]

Originally Posted by Sugar08

I agree with Nikki. He definitely needs to be visible on campus. Chances are, he'll meet some members of the frat by being involved in different groups ... and then his relationship with them can be a natural progression, rather than the forced "I reallllly wanna join your organization."

BTW: I'm glad this thread was resurrected. I'd never seen it before.

I had never seen it either until someone resurrected it before me. I think it was close to 3 years old! LOL

He's already dorm president (as a freshman - ambitious like his big bro ) and is definitely on the right path to being involved and making the most of his experience. I'm sure he'll make all the right decisions when the time comes.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ealymc

I had never seen it either until someone resurrected it before me. I think it was close to 3 years old! LOL

He's already dorm president (as a freshman - ambitious like his big bro ) and is definitely on the right path to being involved and making the most of his experience. I'm sure he'll make all the right decisions when the time comes.

But, see, what we are saying is your little brother needs to be involved in activities "relevant to the Black community". He is doing the fun and good things in college as he should, but who are is "role models" besides you and your family who happened to be greek and active?

If he wants to be a part of the NPHC, go where the Black folks go. And not all of us are ghetto, hood rats and thugs. You would not say that about historical African Americans in the past would you? The reality is, if you or your brother are not attending HBCU's, then you won't see us a PWI because our numbers are not vast at a 50K student population.

Moreover, if folks roll with the punches because others are doing it kind of thing, then the NPHC is not for you. It is about doing the "road less traveled"--especially at PWI's. That is why it is a foreign concept to many...

Also, the greek life coordinator should have all the contact information on active chapters. Most universities request this information to do activities on the campus.

Just trying to help.