Big Sister selection

[AlphaFrog]

Better is what works for that particular sorority. Which is why some do it right away and others wait. I know that's not the answer you were looking for, but that's the truth.

The 26 sororities are very much alike on many things, but also very different on others. Also, unless you were a member of more than one (which is a total no-no) it would be hard for any one person to say why some do it different and which is better.

[AnchorAlumna]

It also depends on the individual chapter.
One argument is that it's better to wait and better match personalities. Personally, I think a week or two is plenty of time...the poor nm needs somebody she can go to with questions, and to encourage her. Especially with these huge nm classes, they tend to get lost...nobody notices when they don't show up regularly...I'm an advocate of big-sister-from-the-second-week, but I have heard of half the NM term finishing before a big sis is assigned.

[AlphaFrog]

One thing I really like about ASA is that on bid night you get a Ruby Sister who is your temporary Big, until you get your official Big. Best of both worlds.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

One thing I really like about ASA is that on bid night you get a Ruby Sister who is your temporary Big, until you get your official Big. Best of both worlds.

Lots of sororities do this, a sort of "bid day big" until you get your big. In Sigma Kappa, we call them heart sisters. I've heard of DG's anchormates, ZTA's strawberry and white violet sisters, AOII's panda pals, Theta's kite sisters, Kappa's key sisters, etc. I like it because as a new member, it's nice to have someone to guide you right away, yet, if you meet someone else you fall in love with a few weeks into your new member period, you're not bound to the girl you met during recruitment.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Lots of sororities do this, a sort of "bid day big" until you get your big. In Sigma Kappa, we call them heart sisters. I've heard of DG's anchormates, ZTA's strawberry and white violet sisters, AOII's panda pals, Theta's kite sisters, Kappa's key sisters, etc. I like it because as a new member, it's nice to have someone to guide you right away, yet, if you meet someone else you fall in love with a few weeks into your new member period, you're not bound to the girl you met during recruitment.

We had heart sisters until one sister decided to change it and call them dove darlings which made me throw up in my mouth a little.

[OleMissGlitter]

When I pledged back in 1996, I got a "Rose Buddy." She was my temporary Big Sis until I got my real big sis. She was just someone who sat with me at meals and I could call her if I had in questions. I personally think that a new member should find out who their big sis is about 2-3 weeks into the new member period.

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AlexMack

We had heart sisters until one sister decided to change it and call them dove darlings which made me throw up in my mouth a little.

Heart Sister, Dove Darlings...we called them Heart Sister back in my day, but the current chapter I advise calls them "Pearl Pals."

[KSUViolet06]

It really depends on the sorority. In my chapter, we got a new "Pearl Pal" for every week, until Big/Little Week, which was the week before initiation.

[SigKapChatter]

[quote=violetpretty;1518560]Lots of sororities do this, a sort of "bid day big" until you get your big. In Sigma Kappa, we call them heart sisters.

At our chapter we call them violet sisses.

[aephi alum]

At my chapter, you got an Alpha sister on bid day, an Epsilon sister a week later, and a Phi sister (your big) a week after that. I'm pretty sure they still do it that way. The new member period is 6-8 weeks, so you have an "official big" for most of your NM period, but before that, you have two different "temporary bigs" who give you little gifts, take you out for coffee/ice cream, and basically make you feel welcome and make sure you meet sisters you might not have met during recruitment.

[thetaprincess]

At my sorority we called the bigs that we got on bid day our kite sisters.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

One thing I really like about ASA is that on bid night you get a Ruby Sister who is your temporary Big, until you get your official Big. Best of both worlds.

My chapter did something like this.. we had "Violets" until our Diamond Sister reveal... every week for about 2 (or was it 3?) weeks, we had a different "Violet" who would write us a sweet card about being in the sisterhood and we'd get a small gift.

It was awesome!

[AOII Angel]

I think I had two Rose Buddies before getting my Big Sis....it doesn't really matter how you do it since you end up the same place. (i.e. with a mentor type sister who looks out for you.)