Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

Originally Posted by giggle528

i dont think they are slutty..thats just what everyone else thinks.


ok you know what? i didnt come here to be freaking attacked by people who i dont even freaking know. I came here to vent, because maybe people here since mainly everyone is greek would understand my situtation, but i clearly was wrong. theres your answer happy?

you all are switching the story, putting words in my mouth, etc. I signed my bid because during rush i felt comfortable with the girls. during new member period, i still felt comfortable, BUT i was dissappointed because we never did anything, being dissappointed in the way they went about things and being comfortable around them as a person is COMPLETELY different. I went through initiation, because originally I was going to transfer to a school closer to home, and I was set on going there. They also had ABC too. at that time I didnt know that sometimes transfers arent accepted, so i figured that I would go through initation and the transfer into the other schools chapter. All the girls of my chapter knew that I was transfering, BUT the day after initation I went to go visit the school, and thats when i found out that I couldnt go there (for certain reasons). If I had known that before hand then I would of DPed for the respect of the group.

So there are your answers...now just leave me alone

What sorority are you a member of?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by OTW

What sorority are you a member of?

She probably won't say...

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

She probably won't say...

No shit.

But I was hoping she'd be dumb enough to at least answer.

Thanks a lot.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by OTW

No shit.

But I was hoping she'd be dumb enough to at least answer.

Thanks a lot.

You're welcome. Thanks for being such an upstanding citizen. You hurt my feel bads. <<< me

[SWTXBelle]

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

True.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

I love you for this.

[adpiucf]

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

She probably won't say...

shake her up some more and we'll find out. i mean we know it's not DZ or Pi Phi. and i swear she said something like there were only 3 sororities on her campus and that hers was one of the "not so popular ones." so if you know of any 3-NPC-having schools then narrow it down.

and this comes from an NPHCer... see how easy it can be?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by tld221

shake her up some more and we'll find out. i mean we know it's not DZ or Pi Phi. and i swear she said something like there were only 3 sororities on her campus and that hers was one of the "not so popular ones." if that helps at all.

lol @ shake her up some more. Sarcasm?