Speak up or bite my tongue?

[andrea981]

I think going to the panhellenic advisor is probably a better call than the alum, if you feel strongly that you do not want to let this go. Honestly, this situation might just be a few bad (and inappropriately vocal) apples in the sorority and if you go to the alum, headquarters may likely get notified and involved. While you might think this is warranted, I think that the chapter and panhellenic leadership themselves should be given a chance to handle the problem-girls before creating a bigger fuss than may be necessary.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

As a Panhellenic Secretary, I would honestly say that our advisor would have loved to hear about something like this and discussed the issue with the chapter heads immediately. Don't be afraid to call the advisor up! Introduce yourself, alert them of the problem. I would hope that like our advisor, their advisor would understand right away what the problem was and why you were being so helpful and assure you that he/she would take actions.

[SydneyK]

I thought I'd update everyone on my course of action.

I called the Office of Greek Life at the university in question. I asked to speak to someone regarding a brief encounter I had with a group of sorority girls. I was connected to the Greek Affairs Director.

I explained to the director that I had been on campus as a guest, and that I wasn't personally connected to any alumnae of the group involved, but thought they should be made aware of the girls' behavior, etc. I hadn't even mentioned any sororities yet and she said...

"Let me guess, you heard ABC bashing all the other groups?" I thought, "Wow, someone else must've said something." I replied, "Well, yes, but it was so public, and they were in the middle of rush, blah blah blah." This woman then said, "Yeah, nobody really likes them very much. We're surprised their nationals haven't yanked their charter. They never even get half of quota, while the other groups get quota plus. I can tell their chapter advisor if you want me to, but I can tell you right now she won't do anything but laugh. Don't worry about it - they're bound to be gone soon anyway."

My jaw hit the desk. I honestly couldn't believe this was the response I got. We wrapped up the conversation, and I expect this will be the last anyone there ever hears of the situation. Perhaps that's best... but I'm still a little shocked at the response!

[UGAalum94]

I am too.

It seems terrible that the group's present behavior is about to drive the chapter into the ground when it's possible that alums have no idea what's up today.

Did the Greek Life person mean that the chapter adviser would laugh as in "laugh it off, no big deal, isn't it funny what upsets other people" Or laugh as in, "I can't believe I'm involved in the absurdity of advising such a world class group of losers; at least they won't be active XYZs for long and I can move on to a productive role in XYZ; if I don't laugh, I'll cry" kind of thing.

It's weird, and had I known it was going to get that response, I'd want alumnae to know. The chapter at this college is ruining the good name of the group within the community, and no one locally seems to care?

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Did the Greek Life person mean that the chapter adviser would laugh as in "laugh it off, no big deal, isn't it funny what upsets other people" Or laugh as in, "I can't believe I'm involved in the absurdity of advising such a world class group of losers; at least they won't be active XYZs for long and I can move on to a productive role in XYZ; if I don't laugh, I'll cry" kind of thing.

I don't know. I think AOII Angel is right about the GL Director simply being fed up with the group. Maybe she was just projecting her frustration onto ABC's adviser, and just assumed what her response would be. I truly got the feeling that ABC has been a thorn in Panhellenic's side there for a while now. Shame, really, but there's not much anyone (but ABC) can do about it.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

I thought I'd update everyone on my course of action.

I called the Office of Greek Life at the university in question. I asked to speak to someone regarding a brief encounter I had with a group of sorority girls. I was connected to the Greek Affairs Director.

I explained to the director that I had been on campus as a guest, and that I wasn't personally connected to any alumnae of the group involved, but thought they should be made aware of the girls' behavior, etc. I hadn't even mentioned any sororities yet and she said...

"Let me guess, you heard ABC bashing all the other groups?" I thought, "Wow, someone else must've said something." I replied, "Well, yes, but it was so public, and they were in the middle of rush, blah blah blah." This woman then said, "Yeah, nobody really likes them very much. We're surprised their nationals haven't yanked their charter. They never even get half of quota, while the other groups get quota plus. I can tell their chapter advisor if you want me to, but I can tell you right now she won't do anything but laugh. Don't worry about it - they're bound to be gone soon anyway."

My jaw hit the desk. I honestly couldn't believe this was the response I got. We wrapped up the conversation, and I expect this will be the last anyone there ever hears of the situation. Perhaps that's best... but I'm still a little shocked at the response!

Sounds like the Greek Life Advisor was worn out by this group. People don't usually sound like defeatists unless they have a reason to. It's a shame that the nationals don't go in and do something about the group. It also sounds like these girls are sore losers who can't figure out that their actions rather than the actions of the successful chapters on campus are to blame for their poor performance during recruitement.

[AnchorAlumna]

Wow. Sounds like that group's days are numbered. It's a shame.
I agree, if I were an alum of that group, I'd want to know. What about going to the group's Web site and contacting someone in their upper echelons? Or at least writing an anonymous letter?