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Originally Posted by AlexMack
Agreed. My big is a lesbian and my new member educator is also. Our chapter readily accepted this as fact and we even talked about relationship stuff with them like we would if we had boy issues. My big would bring her partner to date parties, formals etc. She was also chapter president and one of the greatest women I know.
It makes me so sad to know that you can stay in the closet, everyone will love you for you but that the one small detail of liking the same sex is enough to turn people off. Apparently we have no sexual orientation clause in our bylaws but I would hope that my sisters all over the country would know better than to turn someone down who would make a fabulous sister just because she's gay.
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I think the number of people who actually know a person and love her for being her as long as she is closeted but wouldn't if she were out is really pretty tiny. Although there may be some people who operate that way, surely it wouldn't be the majority on any campus or in any Greek system.
The problem comes in with how recruitment works on many campuses. It's superficial and seems to be about like finding like. To be out during an SEC recruitment (and I'm not sure why it would particularly come up if conversations about boys, booze, bank and Bible are forbidden), I think might mean that your sexual orientation would be your defining characteristic. If the group already knew you as a person because you were an active member's sister or from the same hometown as a lot of members, I think you would get a fair membership evaluation.
But if you are just known as the lesbian PNM, you're taking a risk that it will eclipse other aspects of your identity because it would still be kind of exceptional on some campuses.
Once in the group though, I can't imagine any female group rescinding membership based on orientation.
I think the number of SEC fraternities that would keep a gay pledge is probably smaller than most of us want to think.
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