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Your daughter has nothing to lose and everything to gain by sticking it out through recruitment week.
At the competitive Texas schools, good grades, well-rounded extracurriculars (including community service) and recommendations are a basic "prerequisite" for sorority recruitment. If she is lacking in any of these areas, particularly grades or recommendations, this will account for early cuts, particularly at a school like UT-Austin. SHSU, not so much, due to a less competitive (but just as excellent!) Greek System.
Encourage her to do what she feels is right for her, but to consider all of her options. Is it so important to be a member of "ABC Sorority" that she will forgo sorority membership completely if ABC is not an option for her? At some Texas schools, the rates of return diminish when you rush a second time, or rush as an upperclassman. For many, freshman year is the optimal time to join.
Keep in mind that recruitment is a series of brief first impressions. She may have been cut from sororities that she regarded as her favorites, but she is basing those impressions off of some very brief interactions with only a handful of members of the sorority.
Regarding campus reputation, most college students are at that age where image is everything. Before coming into recruitment, PNMs have been fed opinions as to which sororities are the best. This is nonsense.
There is no evaluative criteria that ranks sororities on a campus. I would not take any fraternity men's opinions seriously, nor the opinions of any of the students, including sorority members to what sorority is the "best." The chapters have between 50-100+ members, depending on the school, and I will guarantee you that those 50 women in any given chapter are not exactly alike, and are not collectively the "best" or the "worst" as a group.
As an example, I would wager that your daughter had the opportunity to join many church groups in high school. She selected the one where she felt most comfortable and stayed there because she liked the people who were there and they liked her. She didn't join it because everyone else said they were the best. She joined because were the best choice for her.
Your daughter should approach the rest of her recruitment in this way. Stick it out and make the choices that will bring her closer to a group of sorority women where she feels like she fits in, both on her best day and on her worst. At the end of the day, she may well determine that a sorority isn't the place for her. Whether or not she joins a sorority, there are plenty of student groups (including non-NPC sororities) where she can find sisterhood and friendship.
Best of luck to you both!
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Last edited by adpiucf; 08-24-2007 at 10:46 AM.
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