Is there anything good about men?

[Glitter650]

I agree that "man bashing" is a bit out of hand at some points, and some women manipulate men and treat their men like punching bag and that men have been taught to just smile and say "yes dear" and this is DEFINTELY not a good thing, and something that I try to avoid in my relationship, however men have their own advantages in life as well. I think as she says, it balances out in the end.

[AlphaFrog]

I do believe that people give you what you expect of them (or less). If you expect them to be lazy, blathering, forgetful, insenstive, sexist idiots, and even worse, put up with them like that, then that's what they're going to continue to give...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I do believe that people give you what you expect of them (or less). If you expect them to be lazy, blathering, forgetful, insenstive, sexist idiots, and even worse, put up with them like that, then that's what they're going to continue to give...

^^^I agree?




I think I had to release past pain I allowed myself to suffer before I permitted myself to move forward in my current marital relationship with my husband.

I find generally from a scientific viewpoint that a lot of men still have large egos that are fragile; whereas, women are not as secure at she would like to be. But I also think we are living in uncertain times. At best, for those of us that are heterosexual, we have to strengthen and shore up those parts our partner lacks and have it reciprocated. This is just my opinion.

[RU OX Alum]

i'm glad your marital relationship is with your husband, instead of just some random guy

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by Glitter650

I agree that "man bashing" is a bit out of hand at some points, and some women manipulate men and treat their men like punching bag and that men have been taught to just smile and say "yes dear" and this is DEFINTELY not a good thing, and something that I try to avoid in my relationship, however men have their own advantages in life as well. I think as she says, it balances out in the end.

This line of thought is actually a pretty good example of what the author is trying to address - "evening out" is kind of a way of saying "you win there, I'll win here," which is explicitly a competition element, and (the author posits) this aids in the attempts to marginalize one sex in other areas.

[justabeachbrat]

I try to avoid gender bashers, of men or women. I stopped going with a stop for a drink after work circle of women because man bashing was their main topic. From having two brothers, I've heard my share of women bashing from a few of their friends. When I'm around now, they've ceased this line of conversation.
Two of my nearly lifelong friends are guys, and value their friendship.

[Glitter650]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

This line of thought is actually a pretty good example of what the author is trying to address - "evening out" is kind of a way of saying "you win there, I'll win here," which is explicitly a competition element, and (the author posits) this aids in the attempts to marginalize one sex in other areas.

This is true.. however... I think that until we can come up with a way for both sexes not to feel marginalized in some aspect, each will continue to want to make up for those perceived "marginalizations" by looking at the marzinalizations of the other sex to make themselves feel better. Did that make any sense ?

[Blacksocialite]

I am a firm believer in casting positive energy out to receive positive things back into your life.

There are lots of good men out here but unfortunately, the knuckleheads have their "tom-foolery" down to such a science, that they end up damaging scores of women before the good men have an opportunity to find them.

Each experience should be viewed as a lesson and a blessing. Work hard to not become bitter and hostile because of a few clowns. Find a prayer circle of POSTIVE women to help and encourage you along the way.

Also, be willing to ask yourself some really hard questions regarding your emotional prepareness to receive a good man into your life.

A lot of times, we as women, believe that we are ready for good men by chances are:

1) We still harbor feelings for a past love
2) Many of us are addicted to drama and chaos unknowingly
3) Many of us think that good men are boring

Stay encouraged and know that the good men are out there. They just may not come in the packaging you "pre-ordered."