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Originally Posted by Tinese
I guess if you ever want to date some anyone from this state you should have a questionaire that reads: are you gay or bi-sexual, if so can you please take an portable hiv test on the spot.
Sisterly,
Tinese
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Hey Sistergreeks!
This is exactly what I was going to say is the main contributor to the problem: Atlanta is the MECCA of the down-low brother! I've heard way too many personal accounts from friends in the area. Also IMO it has to do with the apathetic attitudes of most people towards these things. People start getting tested getting concerned (for all STD's) AFTER there is a scare/ symptoms. We need be more proactive. Once the diagnosis is there for many STDs what's done is done. For example, I was speaking with a close male friend of mine (and I normally ask whatever is on my mind). He was telling me that a young lady (lady is used loosely) he has been dating for all of 3 months might be pregnant by him. He stated "I thought she was on the pill" angrily. I asked him if they had talked about this and she lied or if he was just assuming. Guess which was his answer! i also told him that there are TWO parties responsible for meeting their birth control needs - what about a condom? He basically told me to be real: "you know how it is in the heat of the moment sometime", "I trust her (she doesn't have anything etc." I was shocked! This is a highly educated, well groomed, practicing Christian man. What many consider to be that "good man" that is so hard to find. But that statement says it all. We assume too many things based on a person's exterior, socioeconomic status etc. The bottom line is you don't know how much you can trust someone until you have proof; get tested, talk about the results, ASK IF THEY ARE ON THE PILL / HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT DIFFERENT METHODS OF PROTECTION INCLUDING CONDOMS!
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