2007 UGA Recruitment

UGAMOM01 · #1 08-15-2007, 01:36 PM

I talked with my D earlier today. She is going back to 3 houses today, however of the 3 only one is and has been one of her top choices. She is considering suicide. Her thoughts are that of her two top choices last night, she would be happy with either one, but only one of those sororities was on her schedule this morning, and she didn't really want to be in the other two groups. After talking, she agreed to be open minded to the consider the girls who are potential new members (pledge class) as well as reevaluating the girls already in the house before making a final decision regarding suicide.

Suicide concerns me for her sake, but I can only be a listening ear, raise question to options, and be a voice of support to what ever her final decision.

I have prayed for decernment in the final phase of this crazy week for all the girls. Good luck to all girls and us parents. May we all sleep better come Friday night!

NUBlue&Blue · #2 08-15-2007, 01:40 PM

Good luck to your daughter!

Friday night you'll all be sleeping and I'll just be getting started!

But at least all the "friends" will be settled and my daughter can concentrate on what's going on with her own rush!

UGAgreekmom · #3 08-15-2007, 02:01 PM

You're being a very supportive mom for your D right now. I know that she's very disappointed, but I think that she's right to go to the 3 parties and evaluate again what each group has to offer. Sometimes, in all the frenzy and exhaustion of recruitment, these girls begin to think they've found what they want, but when they have a chance to look again at a group, they find something there they hadn't seen before. Very often these girls get to a pref party and realize that the other PNMs in the room are very much like themselves, and they find that they could be happy with that group. This a always very emotional but it will be over soon. Your D will be happy at UGA in or out of a sorority - and you'll be happy for her, too. Good luck to you both!!!

UGAMOM01 · #4 08-15-2007, 02:11 PM

I need to retract and apologozie for the comment made earlier, "considering suicide" instead of S.I.P. (single intention preference). No thought was put into my typing and the manner in which someone might have read those poor choice of words.

My D is emotionally fine about this final phase of RUSH, just to clarify.

To all of you wonderful parents and family members who this may have read this and been disturbed by that phrase for what ever reason, please accept my sincere apologies.

UGAMOM01

33girl · #5 08-15-2007, 02:25 PM

Oh no, no need to clarify! I knew I should have put a

or

in there somewhere.

If you said SIP or ISP or whatever the heck it is, 7/8ths of the people on here wouldn't have known what you were talking about. It's politically correct doublespeak at its finest!

violetpretty · #6 08-15-2007, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAMOM01

I need to retract and apologozie for the comment made earlier, "considering suicide" instead of S.I.P. (single intention preference). No thought was put into my typing and the manner in which someone might have read those poor choice of words.

My D is emotionally fine about this final phase of RUSH, just to clarify.

To all of you wonderful parents and family members who this may have read this and been disturbed by that phrase for what ever reason, please accept my sincere apologies.

UGAMOM01

Using an -ing will remove all doubt, especially on GC. ie. She is thinking about suiciding XYZ.

UGAalum94 · #7 08-15-2007, 06:04 PM

Here's the bottom line on not maximizing your options, as I see it: if a girls is sure that she'd rather not be Greek than be in a group, she shouldn't list the group.

If she lists them and ends up matched to that group and determines that she still doesn't want to be a member of that group, she has to wait a year before she can accept another bid.

But if she doesn't list them, she cuts her changes of receiving a bid by at least a third and actually more because if she lists all three groups, she is guaranteed a bid at one of them as a QA*

Only listing one or two, if she doesn't match, she can only hope for a snap bid from a different group or the chance to COB later.

Personally, at UGA, I don't think that listing or not listing really changes the outcome any. COB is such a rare thing for many groups that for a girl who is willing to rule groups out in formal matching as bad fits (or beneath her), retaining the option to COB isn't worth much to her.

ETA: It's been called to my attention that it's not actually guaranteed.

cluelessUGAmom · #8 08-15-2007, 06:20 PM

Aghhhh! I'm so confused! And I know that she is too!!!!!!!! Put #3 or not! But it's done now.

I'm calling her and saying - "Live, Love, Laugh"! (It's funny as when I was her age, I wore a charm that had that saying. And, now those 3 words get posted on lots of walls in pictures etc.) I think that they are very appropriate words for our girls tonight!

kathyc · #9 08-15-2007, 06:45 PM

Cluelessugamom and all the other UGA parents awaiting bid day tomorrow:

We are all thinking about you tonight. I know it's hard but I'm sure that everything will turm out for the best. Even if she does not get her #1 pick, please tell her to keep an open mind. We're all hoping for the best possible outcomes, though. My red carnation is for you tonight cluelessugamom.

Kathyc

33girl · #10 08-15-2007, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAMOM01

I talked with my D earlier today. She is going back to 3 houses today, however of the 3 only one is and has been one of her top choices. She is considering suicide.

Thank heaven we all know what you're talking about, or this would sound really bad.

Then again, that's why the term suicide is used - to convey the gravity of what you're doing. "Intentional Single Preference" abbreviated to "ISP" doesn't quite cut it.