2007 Thread for Moms of PNMs!

FSUZeta · #1 08-13-2007, 03:46 PM

dear clueless-8 to 10 invitations on 12 party day is good. for any pnm , not receiving any invitations is always a possibility, on any day-we can't give you odds. the best advice i know to share, is for your daughter to maximize her options and accept all invitations that she can.

sororities are not allowed to extend bids prior to formal fall recruitment. if a pnm believes that she has been extended a bid during the summer, she may be very disappointed when the actual bids come out on bid day in the fall.

fraternities operate under totally different rules and at some schools it is okay to extend bids to men in the summer.

Mama Dawg · #2 08-13-2007, 08:55 PM

COB is the continuous open bidding....that was my question, too. Suiciding is attending the Preferentials round and then putting only one top choice....again, not in the PNMs best interest. Rank as many as you are invited to attend.

I'm still getting clarification on numbers of call backs, too. However, a good way to look at this is that if you didn't attend 12 events today, you didn't get as hot, tired and sweaty (and perhaps overwhelmed) and maybe were able to put your better, cooler, fresher foot forward. Also, perhaps you were able to better narrow down the sorority that fits you.

NUBlue&Blue · #3 08-13-2007, 09:57 PM

All of her friends will be done by the time my daughter starts recruitment at "an undisclosed location" on Saturday. There will be four girls from their high school going through together. Three of them ended up on the same dorm floor (this happened to my older daughter--the only 4 girls from our high school all ended up on the same floor!) My daughter lives in a different dorm and her roommate is also going through recruitment.

She is excited, we have everything ready to go after getting the stamp of approval from her older sister.

AChiOhSnap · #4 08-13-2007, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Mama Dawg

I'm still getting clarification on numbers of call backs, too. However, a good way to look at this is that if you didn't attend 12 events today, you didn't get as hot, tired and sweaty (and perhaps overwhelmed) and maybe were able to put your better, cooler, fresher foot forward. Also, perhaps you were able to better narrow down the sorority that fits you.

Good perspective. It's always tough to receive heavy cuts in the first few rounds, but in some ways, I think it can really help a PNM sort out how she feels about the remaining sororities. It's been a mantra on here, but we all know "it only takes one." If you've found the sorority that you love and that loves you right back, it won't matter if you had the pick of the pack or been cut by nearly everyone.

oldrusheenowmom · #5 08-14-2007, 02:03 PM

I was surprised to hear of a legacy with no grade problems cut after first round?? Oops, mom who told me only had 1/2 of a text message-- sorry

NUBlue&Blue · #6 08-14-2007, 02:13 PM

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I was surprised to hear of a legacy with no grade problems cut after first round??

Welcome to the SEC.

oldrusheenowmom · #7 08-14-2007, 02:39 PM

Next question- after day one, niece was told to list top favorites and rank bottom four- found that odd; would think you would rank tops?? any feedback

aopirose · #8 08-14-2007, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by oldrusheenowmom

Next question- after day one, niece was told to list top favorites and rank bottom four- found that odd; would think you would rank tops?? any feedback

Some schools use a computer system where they rank all favorites a #1 and then the rest of the chapters as 2, 3 and so on.

annabella · #9 08-15-2007, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by oldrusheenowmom

Next question- after day one, niece was told to list top favorites and rank bottom four- found that odd; would think you would rank tops?? any feedback

I'll clarify this because I know your neice is going through at Mizzou- in years past, PNMs wouldn't rank after they visited the chapters at the end of the day. Instead, they would meet with their Pi Chis at about 6 am, receive their invites for the day, and choose to which houses they return. This took awhile, and it was always a little embarrassing for the girls who didn't have as many choices, because their slips of paper were noticeably smaller than the other girls'.

With this new system, the girls are still cutting 13 chapters down to 9- but this way, they don't have to get up early, because Panhel can easily match them up with their top 9. If any of those chapters don't invite them back, then they pull from the bottom 4 they ranked. This way, no one has to get up so early, Panhel has more than just a few hours to put everything in the computer and get everyone's schedules, and it usually saves the PNMs from having a list of chapters that is waaay shorter than their neighbors.