PNMs Being a "Good Fit"

[FSUZeta]

i see what you mean-maybe the pnm got lucky and got hostesses who were adept at reading people, and were able to hold good, "real" conversations with the pnm, and they looked past her outfits and saw her potential-kind of like eliza doolittle? then again, had she gotten one of the chapter members who is more quick to size someone up, she would have been out of there like a shot.

as for similar girls-looks, grades, resume, recs. family history-who knows??
maybe pnm A had an enemy in the camp who did not want her asked back, while noone knew pnm B, so she got asked back. maybe the two girls were not as similar as they appear on the surface-maybe pnm A was a partier, but if was not common knowledge. maybe pnm A was rude to her rusher, or seemed disinterested.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i see what you mean-maybe the pnm got lucky and got hostesses who were adept at reading people, and were able to hold good, "real" conversations with the pnm...

maybe pnm A was rude to her rusher, or seemed disinterested.

That's another thing - it seems like the bigger the chapter and rush, the fewer sorority members you (you = rushee) get to actually meet. If you get paired with a sister you have NOTHING in common with, it doesn't seem to matter if everyone else in the chapter would love you, if that sister and you just don't click. Even if she introduces you to other sisters, her negative opinion of you will probably come through.

Now this really is getting too close to MS so I'll stop there.

[violetpretty]

I think a lot of it comes down to who you meet. If a PNM gets a bad rusher who doesn't know what questions to ask, the PNM will have to be the one working hard to make conversation, and she will look boring if she doesn't, and therefore, not a good fit. If this happens during the first round and the PNM only met the one girl, she'll probably get cut if this is a competitive chapter, even if a better rusher would have clicked with her and let her shine.

ETA: I can think of a few people who joined a chapter that I absolutely loved during recruitment, but cut me before preference. I used to wonder, why them and not me? Honestly, now I know I would not have been a good fit there; it just seemed to me that it was home, which was why it stung when I was cut.

ETA: I've said this before, at a big school, there is often more than one place where a PNM would be a good fit. I think I would have been happy in any of 3 other chapters had I not received a bid from Sigma Kappa. Just because there are multiple places that I would be a good fit doesn't mean there aren't places that I would be a bad fit, because there certainly are chapters where I wouldn't fit in. Sure, I have friends in pretty much every chapter, but just because I am friends with a few individuals doesn't mean the chapter is for me.

[SWTXBelle]

I think it is similiar to a job interview - you have two applicants who look the same on paper; same credentials, etc. - but when you meet with them one impresses you as being more of what you had in mind.
I don't know that it ultimately can be objective. By its very nature, formal recruitment forces you to make some value judgements about pnms that may or may not be 100% accurate. Most of the time, it seems to me, it works out.
Then again, who gets married thinking anything other than this is the one??? And sometimes, he/she is - and sometimes, you made an error in judgement!