Meeting an Online Date

[AKA_Monet]

My husband and I met via email intro through a mutual acquantaince.

If you do write a "personal", hayle, ask for everything you desire in a mate and be creative. Make it challenging and see if he or she can live up to the challenge.

Folks do lie. But, there are some key questions you can ask that no matter what the answer is, you get your answer.

I did write a personal before I was married. My personal just said that "the Universe is my Sanctuary and if you are ready to be under my realm of belief, the welcome, assante and ashe..."

Speak to them IM or email at a nondescript site. Then when you feel comfortable, have them call you.

And as crazy as it sounds, make the person meet you at church. If they say they can't, then, hey--you know! Better to know now and have the scrutiny by those who already are familiar with you...

[preciousjeni]

Just saw this thread. I know of several friends who have developed relationships with men they met online - and none of them met on dating sites. The meetings were all random (like Xanga, MySpace, Facebook, etc.) Three of my friends are now married to the men they met online.

I'm still wary of dating sites - but, Professor, I completely disagree with your assertion that a "special person will come and he will be sent by God not a dot com." God is in everything.

Your statement reminds me of the modern parable about the man whose house was flooding. When the water was very low, some friends came by in a big truck and asked him if he needed help. He said, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." Then, the water got higher and some friends came by in a boat. Upon asking if he required assistance, he replied again, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." Finally, when the water was about to cover the roof of his house, a helicopter hovered overhead and he was asked one last time if he needed help. He still said, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." After he died, he asked God why He hadn't saved him. God said, "I sent you a truck, a boat and a helicopter."

The same applies here. God is in everything, even dating sites.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Your statement reminds me of the modern parable about the man whose house was flooding. When the water was very low, some friends came by in a big truck and asked him if he needed help. He said, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." Then, the water got higher and some friends came by in a boat. Upon asking if he required assistance, he replied again, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." Finally, when the water was about to cover the roof of his house, a helicopter hovered overhead and he was asked one last time if he needed help. He still said, "No, I'm waiting for God to save me." After he died, he asked God why He hadn't saved him. God said, "I sent you a truck, a boat and a helicopter."

The same applies here. God is in everything, even dating sites.

LOL but I like that J! Point WELL taken. By the way, my date went quite well.