whats your relationship with your big/little?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Although, "on paper," this relationship as a "Diamond" (Big/Lil) is supposed to formally conclude once the new member is initiated. We're not supposed to have families, etc., in order to discourage cliques.

I've noticed that there is way more of a problem with pledge/NM/alpha/whatever classes being cliquey than with families being cliquey. If anything, it encourages sisters of all ages to be close.

I felt isolated from my NM class, so I bonded with my big and the rest of my extended family, who I felt were much more similar to me. I haven't seen my big in a while, since she graduated two years ago, but we were very close when we were both actives. I am extremely close with my little, grandlittle and great grandlittle.

[AlwaysSAI]

My SAI big was fabulous!! She became an inactive sister of Alcha Chi Omega the semester before she joined SAI. I think that's what made her such a fabulous big. She gave me the best gifts out of my entire pledge class--everything was hand made and decorated. The final day of big/lil week, she had modge-podged a bottle with magazine adds, filled it with my favorite color of sand, and put a note in the top--calling it my "message in a bottle". Anyway, she was great. We went to dinner all the time, got really close--I called her crying on more than one occasion. The semester after I was initiated, she kind of stopped showing up for meetings and then sent an impromptu email to the chapter anouncing that she was going inactive because she had decided to move back North. She left the chapter without an editor and completely distanced herself from every single sister. I saw her on campus once and she just walked by me and waved. It kind of hurt because we used to be really close. She's at some school in Conneticut and I don't think she has affiliated with SAI or Alpha Chi up there.

Me and my SAI little are getting closer now than before she was initiated. We spend a lot of time together and she went with me to get my last tattoo. I'm really excited to have her as my little because together, I know that we can make our chapter AMAZING!!

My Phi Sigma Pi big brother become one of my closest friends. She held me when my long time boyfriend announced that he thought we had just been "casually dating" for 2 years--WHAT A COP OUT! Anyway, she was studying abroad in England this past semester and I can't wait for her to get back!!! I have missed her.

My Phi Sigma Pi little is a girl that I went to school with for 6 years before I moved in the 11th grade. We weren't close in school and we're not super close now. She's really shy and that makes it hard for me to warm up to her. She doesn't talk much, which makes it worse. She's going to make a great brother, though. I hope we get closer as she gets more used to the brotherhood.

[SydneyK]

My big is pretty much the only sister I still talk to. I never got close to my lil, since she transfered after her first year. That made me sad, so I never took another.

[33girl]

My APO big was my ex-boyfriend who I never want to see again. One of my APO littles was a good friend before her initiation, but I haven't talked to her in a long while (she married an a-hole). My other APO little I haven't heard from since I graduated.

My ASA big works in the same building as I do. We're not close in the sense of talking every day - I think this is more our different personalities than anything else - but we do keep up to date on what's going on in each other's lives. My ASA little dropped off the face of the earth before we graduated, so my little little is basically my little. She's my best friend on the earth.

[EGDeepher]

My big and I were really close for my first two years. My third year she got another little, graduated, and moved to OK. We haven't really spoken much since then only on birthdays really. I have two "adopted littles". The first is really my twin but she was neglected by our big. She and I are really close. She actually lives with my other adopted little, who just had a terrible big and I just kinda took her in. All three of us see each other like 3 times a week. My real little was actually older than me and graduated before I did. At first I didn't know why she picked me as we're night and day but we just clicked. We're an awesome pair and I wouldn't trade her in for anything. We adore each other. We don't get to see each other as often as we like but we make it a point to email each other every week and get together every month.