Child to Parent

[mulattogyrl]

You could have been a little more strict with me.

You could have left out a little more detail about your past.

You could have been a little less open and honest about some things.

I could have been less exposed to certain things.


Then again, that exposure/honesty/freedom made me the person I am today. So thank you, lol.

[DSTKellie]

Wow this topic has really stirred up some emotions and feelings in me that I thought I suppressed. I now realize that I still have some animosity and pain against my mother for things that happened to me in my childhood. I love both of my parents to death; make no mistake about that. Although my mother did not verbally, or physically assault me I picked up a lot her opinions about me from the opinions of herself. Parents need to be careful of what they say, how they act and what they do because children are watching and they are developing a sense of what is right and what is wrong based on your actions and speech.

I always thought as a child that being fat was a bad thing not necessarily because my mother said it but because she was ALWAYS obsessing over how how much she weighed.

I had to constantly hear about how fat she was or how fat she is, or how fat she can't be, how many calories are in this meal, she needs to lose weight...and the list could on. By the way my mother has never weighed more than 140lbs and she is 5'7. I realized now that is the reason why I have such low self-esteem. I am standing at 5'9 and I've gain soo much weight when I was pregnant with my twin boys. When my boys were born they both weight 7lbs! It has been such a battle to get back into my size 6-8; I am now a good solid size 12. People tell me that I look great but I don't feel that way. My mother constantly comments about how much weight I picked up from being pregnant. She said "In a year that weight will be off and you will LOOK great again"...3 days after my sons were born.

Thanks God for my husband who could careless if I am a size 4 or 20. But my suggestion to parents especially mothers becareful not to obsess with weight especially in front your daughters. I know I just vented but I just needed to say that.