What to tell overconfident PNMs - Page 5

FSUZeta · #1 12-22-2010, 09:44 PM

it seems to me that i remember every set of twins who rushed during my collegiate years making an effort to let each of their rush hostesses know that they were individuals and would be making the best decision for her-individually. if they ended up in the same chapter, then "hooray", but it would be by chance, not design. some of them ended up in the same chapter, while other ones found their places in different chapters.

we had one set of twins in my pledge class and one twin in the pledge class above mine. her sister pledged one of our backdoor neighbor sororities. we also had some members who had older sisters in other chapters on campus. as far as i can remember, each one of them let it be known that they would be choosing the chapter that was the best fit for them.

KSUViolet06 · #2 12-23-2010, 08:37 PM

^^^Same here. Any twins who ever rushed here were the type who didn't want to be thought of as a "package." One set did end up in the same chapter, but they said that it wasn't something they were dead set on from the beginning.

We had plenty of Package Deal Friends. Usually, various members of the Package would discover during the week that they liked different houses and that it was okay for them to be different. They also weren't going to drop out because their friends didn't get what they wanted. Ex: If Suzy loved DG, she wasn't turning down her DG pref invite because Julie and Katie didn't get one.

dukemama · #3 12-23-2010, 09:24 PM

When I was a collegian I recall one set of twins pledging the same sorority and a set of identical triplets doing the same thing. However, another set of twins pledged different houses - and the ones they pledged were NOTHING alike.

sceniczip · #4 12-24-2010, 11:36 AM

We had a set of twins and we also had one twin and the other one went AGD I think? I could be wrong about that as it was before my time.

Barbie's_Rush · #5 12-24-2010, 01:32 PM

I think if twins want to be a package deal, they should just wear matching sequined hose throughout recruitment. That way there would be no awkward questions asked or assumptions made by the sorority women. Is it possible this could be added to the Green Book?

DeltaBetaBaby · #6 12-24-2010, 01:58 PM

I know that we had accidental package deals when there were two PNM's with the same name coming through...if nobody could remember who was who, we'd just invite them both back.

AnchorAlum · #7 12-24-2010, 04:23 PM

Many of these PNM's bring these attitudes with them because they've been "steered" or brainwashed by someone in the family.

This is especially true if the PNM is attending a large University with a strong Greek population, and the relative was in one of the "big" houses. Truth be told, we know that in these cases, there are often enough legacies to that one house to fill their quota. Not only that, to narrow it down even more, enough legacies to that specific chapter to fill quota.

When I was a Panhellenic sponsorship chairman some years ago, we knew a train wreck would be just around the corner and lots of broken hearts, sometimes more from Mom or Grandma than the PNM herself, who was shocked to find she actually favored the so and so's over Mom's house. PNM would be happy and Mom would be bitter.

Heck, my roommate in college was cut by her Mother's chapter and ended up in another house, where she was very happy. I still remember Mama sitting on the girl's bed on Bid Day (she was a local) wailing about how they could do this to HER, when she had been such an active alum and had "washed" so many punch glasses during rush. Not one bit of happiness for her daughter.

carnation · #8 07-31-2011, 08:36 AM

bump for 2011 recruitment!

KSUViolet06 · #9 07-30-2013, 01:58 PM

This needs a bump. Realistically look at your desirability in the process. You're awesome, but so is everyone else. Keep that in mind!

dekeguy · #10 03-13-2014, 02:36 PM

When something like over confidence and arrogance happens don't you want to tell that group that since they are definitely going to get a bid from XYZ they should make sure the actives know that since you can have your pick of any house on campus you must insist that all of your group receive bids or you will decline en masse. Also be sure to explain that you think National rules about drinking and smoking in letters are silly and you are not going to put up with that. As a test of confidence they should all do the walk of shame before bid night and if that conflicts with a rush activity don't worry about it as the chapter will see this as a statement of your coolness.

BraveMaroon · #11 03-13-2014, 06:13 PM

One of my colleagues was telling me his daughter will be going to an SEC school with a notoriously tough recruitment. I asked if she was going to rush (as I would have offered to write a rec) and he said, "Yeah, she's going to be an XYZ".

I warned him that it wasn't that simple, and he explained that his mother was an XYZ, that he has a cousin in the XYZ National HQ, and that his daughter's BFF from HS has a sister who is an XYZ at this school. He said, "She has it locked down."

Well, OK then. I'll just mosey along...

Overconfident parents breed overconfident PNMs.

MysticCat · #12 03-13-2014, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

One of my colleagues was telling me his daughter will be going to an SEC school with a notoriously tough recruitment. I asked if she was going to rush (as I would have offered to write a rec) and he said, "Yeah, she's going to be an XYZ".

I warned him that it wasn't that simple, and he explained that his mother was an XYZ, that he has a cousin in the XYZ National HQ, and that his daughter's BFF from HS has a sister who is an XYZ at this school. He said, "She has it locked down."

Well, OK then. I'll just mosey along...

Overconfident parents breed overconfident PNMs.

Please let us know how that one turns out.

AnchorAlumna · #13 03-14-2014, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

Please let us know how that one turns out.

I'm "dittoing" this!

MaryPoppins · #14 03-14-2014, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

One of my colleagues was telling me his daughter will be going to an SEC school with a notoriously tough recruitment. I asked if she was going to rush (as I would have offered to write a rec) and he said, "Yeah, she's going to be an XYZ".

I warned him that it wasn't that simple, and he explained that his mother was an XYZ, that he has a cousin in the XYZ National HQ, and that his daughter's BFF from HS has a sister who is an XYZ at this school. He said, "She has it locked down."

Well, OK then. I'll just mosey along...

Overconfident parents breed overconfident PNMs.

Oh.my.stars . . . be prepared for him to look chagrined around skit night. Might want to prepare that, "lucky to be Greek at all at that school" talk.

carnation · #15 03-14-2014, 07:39 AM

I was at a high school recently and overheard a student saying that she would be rushing at Auburn. I said, "Do you have your recommendations in line?" and she replied dismissively, "Oh, no. I'm a legacy to 7 sororities."

OK, chica. You're out-of-state, I bet you're not a true legacy to 7, and there are probably at least 800 drop-dead-gorgeous girls rushing and you are at the other end of that spectrum, I fear. I hope a sorority is looking for a PNM with a high GPA.