dating a frat boy

[James]

Frat boy = human being. So its pretty much the same as other boys.

One real date? Maybe have higher expectations of how you should be treated. Hanging out is not the same as dating.

[rufio]

frat boy's are all cookie cutter right? therefore we should all the same uniform answer to her question.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by rufio

frat boy's are all cookie cutter right? therefore we should all the same uniform answer to her question.

Yes...yes you are :P

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally Posted by James

One real date? Maybe have higher expectations of how you should be treated. Hanging out is not the same as dating.

Agreed, but she mentioned they're freshman.. I think most freshman year relationships consist of hanging out in dorms and going out/meeting up at the bar, unless you happened to be dating an older guy.

[LilBlueEyes]

hey everyone, thanks for your responses...and to the last one, i'm also an alpha phi thanks sister. and yeah, all frosh year relationships seem to be like ours, and also ones in where neither person has a car which can suckk

so we've been talking, about once a week...keeping in touch, so all's good i guess

sorry, shouldn't have used term "Frat boy" i did that because i was wondering if him and i being greek, and extremely social people would put extra tension on a relationship...??

oh and his parents have decided that he's not allowed to take his car to school next year...he has a little sister who will be using it to drive herself and their little brother to high school since both parents work...awesome

but i will have a car next year....would it be awkward if i picked him up when we went out to dinner? i mean, his house is on my way ... would this bother guys?

oh and is there any way to go about rekindling dating...like inviting him over to watch heroes (which was something we did every week last semester) and seeing how it goes from there? or just see how he acts at parties/ mixers?

[Kevin]

You're in college. Plenty of fish in the sea.

If a guy tells you that you're hurting his grades as a pretext for dumping you, this is a subtle way of him telling you that he's not that into you. If he was really into you, c'mon... grades??? In college, we have a lot of time on our hands. If he wanted to make time for you, he could. He doesn't. Take the hint.

[LilBlueEyes]

could bea pretext for dumping me ....but a few days later, why would he call me and tell me to come over and meet his family when they came to pick him up at the end of the year and call me to come out with him and his boys on his last night as a freshman...he could have easily not done both...

oh and much earlier he called me clingy and said he wanted to stop seeing me once to a mutual friend when there was about 2 1/2 months of school left...

i assumed that meant we were over.....didn't feel like we need to talk about whether or not i was actually clingy....so i assumed we'd just stop talking, etc. and go our own ways amicably

but he called me apologized a ton saying he was just drunk and he likes me a lot but is afraid cause his last girlfriend did a number on him and she's the only relationship he's had but he didn't wanna lose me,etc...so i decided to look to his actions instead of words...and he really stepped up his game and seemed genuinely sorry

bottom line...he confuses me, any help any one?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by James

Frat boy = human being. So its pretty much the same as other boys.

One real date? Maybe have higher expectations of how you should be treated. Hanging out is not the same as dating.

I totally agree.