Conduct Becoming of A Sorority Girl

[AOII Angel]

I think it's very funny that you assume the groups on my campus were uptight or nit picky. We have rules....OH MY GOD!!! I had many sisters who would qualify as sluts by most people's standards, but they were discreet. I had a sister who broke her jaw after she was kicked in the face by a man who we all thought was selling her drugs. We didn't know for sure, but it wouldn't have surprised any of us. She didn't get kicked out....she was well liked and accepted. Nobody actually was kicked out of my chapter or any other chapter during the time I was a member. We all put up with a lot of crap, but if we started being known as the "sluts" or the "druggies" some heads would have rolled. But...that's my campus...and it did work. Maybe at your campus, squirrel, every chapter has their open sluts and crackheads so no one group is ostracized for it....more power to y'all, but THAT doesn't work at most campuses.

[FSUZeta]

jwithers,

honeychile is indeed a real person, who was raised properly by her southern mama. she is genteel and gracious-the epitome of a southern lady, even if she was raised in pittsburgh.

for instance, she would never tell a fellow gcer, especially one relatively new to the forum, how crass and ridiculous her post was. that would be too, too tacky for words.

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

jwithers,

honeychile is indeed a real person, who was raised properly by her southern mama. she is genteel and gracious-the epitome of a southern lady, even if she was raised in pittsburgh.

for instance, she would never tell a fellow gcer, especially one relatively new to the forum, how crass and ridiculous her post was. that would be too, too tacky for words.

Too true.

[JWithers]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

jwithers,

honeychile is indeed a real person, who was raised properly by her southern mama. she is genteel and gracious-the epitome of a southern lady, even if she was raised in Pittsburgh.

for instance, she would never tell a fellow gcer, especially one relatively new to the forum, how crass and ridiculous her post was. that would be too, too tacky for words.

Ahhhh Pittsburgh. That might account for the affected syntax with which she posts. It is offensive to real Southerners and well, just 'icky'. No one I know speaks that way unless they are auditioning for an antebellum role in a movie.

And as for St. Cecilia's....yes, my mother was rather ridiculous in her ideas of proper behavior, but she was also St. Cecilia's 1952. She stuck to her guns, but Lord have mercy, she was from another era.

Thanks for the clarification. It helps me to understand a great deal more. It is still horrifically affected, but, I imagine, in imitation of her mother and not in mockery of the South.

Tacky is as tacky does. And posing is always tackier than exposing said poseur. Call me tacky but I am not pretending to Southern aristocracy. I am the real thing, sugar.

Glad to know honeychile is innocent in her affectedness.

[SWTXBelle]

To quote Miss Manners (Judith Martin) -

Miss Manners is constantly besieged by people who want to know the tactful manner of pointing out their friends' and relatives' inferiorities. . . The answer is that they cannot, certainly not politely. . . Even if it be proven that the mistakes of others come from gross ignorance or from maliciousness, it is not the place of anyone except God, their mothers or Miss Manners to bring this to their attention. As dear Erasmus said, "It is part of the highest civility if, while never erring yourself, you ignore the errors of others."

ETA - unless, of course, you are on standards . . . (!!)

[Laak 315]

What is this post even about? lol. All I got so far is that Southern sorority girls have manners...While I am not from the South (Oklahoma), I have to agree that Southern women seem to have more manners (and class) than a lot of women I have met from other areas of the United States. That's not to say women from other areas don't have manners or class...but my views just reflect my personal encounters...

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by Laak 315

What is this post even about? lol. All I got so far is that Southern sorority girls have manners...While I am not from the South (Oklahoma), I have to agree that Southern women seem to have more manners (and class) than a lot of women I have met from other areas of the United States. That's not to say women from other areas don't have manners or class...but my views just reflect my personal encounters...

I've found the emphasis on manners and etiquette to be OTT. I have much bigger things to worry about than passing the salt and pepper shakers together at the table, crossing my legs properly (here's a clue-it doesn't matter where you cross them, you'll still wind up with medical issues if you continue to do it everytime you sit!), eating while sitting down and drinking out of a glass only.
I'd rather spend my life knowing I tried to help those less fortunate than me than worry about writing out thank you cards and being a gracious hostess. Knowing the right fork to use will not help the rampant poverty on the African continent.

[Laak 315]

eh, manners relate to your upbringing, but I kind of agree...however I wouldn't like to be thought of as a slob by any means...

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I think it's very funny that you assume the groups on my campus were uptight or nit picky. We have rules....OH MY GOD!!! I had many sisters who would qualify as sluts by most people's standards, but they were discreet. I had a sister who broke her jaw after she was kicked in the face by a man who we all thought was selling her drugs. We didn't know for sure, but it wouldn't have surprised any of us. She didn't get kicked out....she was well liked and accepted. Nobody actually was kicked out of my chapter or any other chapter during the time I was a member. We all put up with a lot of crap, but if we started being known as the "sluts" or the "druggies" some heads would have rolled. But...that's my campus...and it did work. Maybe at your campus, squirrel, every chapter has their open sluts and crackheads so no one group is ostracized for it....more power to y'all, but THAT doesn't work at most campuses.

Yes, it's nitpicky in my opinion. It just seems like there's a contradiction...it's so INCREDIBLY important not to (gasp for air at the audacity) drink on the dance floor but I mean...possible drug dealing relations? Eh...we'll let it go. You are making an incredibly inconsistent arguement...at first it was all about image and now you claim to have possible drug relations and "discreet" sluts (the truth is, it's never discreet if anyone knows but the two involved). So why in the world worry about a drink on a dance floor? I mean really...that's really ridiculous...if image is so important that you couldn't get a pledge class if a sister held a drink while dancing or smoked without crossing her legs or something I suggest re-evaluating.

Don't bother acting all offended...sorry but I do and will think the logic here (or lack thereof) is baffling. No, on my campus I doubt open crackheads would work (personally I've never met one) and yes, every chapter has at least A hobag...and as it's college, so does every chapter everywhere.
I just thank the lord we're lookin' out for something besides nitpicky rules...respecting letters is one thing, this is another. Rules, written or not, about things deemed by the MAJORITY of society to be immoral are reasonable, as are rules regarding respect towards letters. I guess you have problems differentiating but I assure you, those sorts of rules and a list of rules regarding your every movement on campus (and of course image is everything...that's why it makes total sense that you would completely just go down the drain if you drink on the dance floor...but I mean drugs and sluts are cool...just not like, holding your cigarette in the wrong hand while you cross your legs the other way...) are different. The logic does not follow.

I guess we're just more about sisterhood here, so I don't understand chapters like that. I am grateful even more for the five here...no one has to change themselves as a person to fit in because "image is everything"...I think we're all more interested in fun, being ourselves, and companionship. The kind of greek system in which image (however contradictory the definition is) is more important than sisterhood is one I do not want to be associated with.