Conduct Becoming of A Sorority Girl

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I don't think you have to go to such extremes...the hooker with the heart of gold versus a sister who is a christian backstabber! Most girls who choose not to follow the rules of the chapter are not good sisters. When you join a sorority you change a lot of things. Following the ideals of the group is the biggest change, so I don't think following little rules like acting like a lady in public to protect the integrity of your chapter is asking too much. Anyway, breaking the little rules wouldn't get you kicked out but would get you reprimanded gently. Furthermore, you can't tell rushees everything before they pledge...there is simply not time. That is one reason for the new member period...they learn whether or not the ideals of the sorority fit their own before making the situation permanent. By going through initiation you agree to follow the rules set forth by the group. Wow that was long winded!

I don't find smoking in public or drinking on the dance floor (what?) to be "unladylike." I don't understand how following archaic rules of what is permissible for female behavior deepens your commitment to your sorority or strengthens relationships between women.

It makes me sad that you actually think "changing a lot of things" to be a part of a sorority is acceptable! Furthermore, I'm sure that at a lot of your chapters the things that you mentioned are in no way "ideals of the sorority." Those are things like leadership and integrity, not etiquette that varies widely from school to school (thank God).

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't find smoking in public or drinking on the dance floor (what?) to be "unladylike." I don't understand how following archaic rules of what is permissible for female behavior deepens your commitment to your sorority or strengthens relationships between women.

It makes me sad that you actually think "changing a lot of things" to be a part of a sorority is acceptable! Furthermore, I'm sure that at a lot of your chapters the things that you mentioned are in no way "ideals of the sorority." Those are things like leadership and integrity, not etiquette that varies widely from school to school (thank God).

I feel like that to an extent...here it's a hard line to walk. Everyone who is greek and is active (been at intramurals, Greek Week, etc.) would know I'm an Alpha Gam even if they have no idea what my name is. So if I act like a cheap whore at the bar then they will talk about "that Alpha Gam". At the least, though, for the sake of sisters who DO find it offensive, it's not a big deal to leave the letters at the door as we say. If I know I'm going to hang out with a bunch of Delta Chis and there will be alcohol a plenty it's no skin off my nose to wear something with AGD on it.

On the other hand we're college students and there's no chapter on campus that has NO drinkers, NO underage drinkers, NO girls who hook up a lot, and probably there's someone in every chapter hiding an affection for drugs (haven't met them yet, but I'm not believing NO ONE does it)...saying that based on our campus. It's pretty liberal. Drinking and dancing isn't a big deal to me...nor do I think it would be to a sister on this campus...in any sorority. Drinking on the dance floor while sandwhiched between two guys with a cigarette in the other hand...

Common decency. Would your mom be pissed if you were drinking and dancing? Probably not, or she'd get over it at least. Would she be upset about you looking veeeeeeeerrrrrryyyyy wasted? I'm bettin' yes.