DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

[OneTimeSBX]

the next time a dark-skinned person says you are pretty/cute/nice looking to be so dark...

..say "so are you!"

i hate nothing more than to be reminded that i am dark. yes, i look in the mirror every single day so i dont need to be told that. yes, i am a good looking woman. those two things should never be in the same sentence/statement. one has nothing to do with the other.

[Still BLUTANG]

i find this puzzling.

i don't like the comment "you're pretty to be so dark" but at the same time i don't mind "being reminded" that i am dark-skinned.

i don't have a problem acknowledging within myself that i am dark-skinned. that's what your post sounded like and if i am way off base I apologize.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG

i don't like the comment "you're pretty to be so dark" but at the same time i don't mind "being reminded" that i am dark-skinned.

I am not dark skinned, but when I hear someone make a comment like that I get pissed!! Someone said that about my grandmother (they were looking at a picture of her from back in the day) and I wanted to deck them.

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by Still BLUTANG

i find this puzzling.

i don't like the comment "you're pretty to be so dark" but at the same time i don't mind "being reminded" that i am dark-skinned.

i don't have a problem acknowledging within myself that i am dark-skinned. that's what your post sounded like and if i am way off base I apologize.

Dark AND Lovely

[AKA_Monet]

I don't like it either when folks belittle darker complexion folks. It cuts my heart terribly so...

[JWithers]

Well, I am about as pasty-white as you can get (sorry to crash, but the title was eye-catching).

But, my dad lived in the Carribean (D.R.) for 17 years so I spent alot of time there, and they are very hung up on light vs. dark down there. To some extent, most everyone is a person of color, but the combinations are really extensive. Light eyes with dark skin but euro features, bright skin with dark eyes and more African features, probably more 'differences' than in the States.

But I always thought it was strange they way the people would say how 'bonita' a girl was just becasue she was light, even if she wasn't all that pretty. But a woman with very dark skin didn't get as much attention, even if she was gorgeous!

Anyway, I am white(did I mention pasty? ), and probably shouldn't have chimed in, but I was kind of surprised that that kind of thing is an issue here, too.

Thanks for letting a newbie post.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by JWithers

Well, I am about as pasty-white as you can get (sorry to crash, but the title was eye-catching).

But, my dad lived in the Carribean (D.R.) for 17 years so I spent alot of time there, and they are very hung up on light vs. dark down there. To some extent, most everyone is a person of color, but the combinations are really extensive. Light eyes with dark skin but euro features, bright skin with dark eyes and more African features, probably more 'differences' than in the States.

But I always thought it was strange they way the people would say how 'bonita' a girl was just becasue she was light, even if she wasn't all that pretty. But a woman with very dark skin didn't get as much attention, even if she was gorgeous!

Anyway, I am white(did I mention pasty? ), and probably shouldn't have chimed in, but I was kind of surprised that that kind of thing is an issue here, too.

Thanks for letting a newbie post.

Yes, sweetheart, it has been going on for a long time.

[JWithers]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Yes, sweetheart, it has been going on for a long time.

Thanks for your kind reply. I saw some posts where new people get kind of reamed. I guess no matter who you are , people feel like they have to divide into groups, and then groups within groups. It seems wrong, but I guess , like you said, it's been going on a long time.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by JWithers

Thanks for your kind reply. I saw some posts where new people get kind of reamed. I guess no matter who you are , people feel like they have to divide into groups, and then groups within groups. It seems wrong, but I guess , like you said, it's been going on a long time.

I don't know why anyone would "ream" you for stating the obvious. Most of us know this happens, it has been happening for a long time and yes, it is wrong.

I don't like it when folks on GC compare complexions...

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

the next time a dark-skinned person says you are pretty/cute/nice looking to be so dark...

..say "so are you!"

i hate nothing more than to be reminded that i am dark. yes, i look in the mirror every single day so i dont need to be told that. yes, i am a good looking woman. those two things should never be in the same sentence/statement. one has nothing to do with the other.

What is the problem with being dark-skinned ?