Sweethearts wearing letters?

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by SxyLambdaLady6

I would not let anyone wear my letters, not even touch them. I was the one that earned my letters not them. When I crossed I learned that you never touch anyone elses letters, tikis, nothing like that because it meant disrespect. If you were a minority greek you would understand that but if you weren't and you touched someones letters it wasn't a big deal but if you did know about it some people would get mad if you touched their letters. To some people they don't care as much but you never know so you just don't do it.

When minority greeks say that they "earned" their letters, it def does not mean that they had to be hazed....it just means that they had a "meaningful" process....not making pledges bingedrink for weeks like some other greeks do...and also greeks say they earned their letters when they are paper. not saying im trying to offend anyone thats paper. what counts is how much you contribute to your chapter in the long run.

This never stops being funny to me. You wouldn't "let" anyone touch your letters? What if in a crowded elevator somebody bumped into your tote bag with letters on it? You would throw down?

[NikkiB]

My boyfriend lavaliered me, and though I get along with all of his brothers, my necklace is the only TKE letters I wear. I have shirts with "Tau Kappa Epsilon" written out on them, but none with letters. I was told by a different brother, however, that I was allowed to wear stitched letters, but my boyfriend was not allowed to anymore, because he had "given" me his letters. I'm still not allowed to wear the crest, or know any secrets, ect (which is fine, because i'd never reveal mine). Another brother told me that my being lavaliered made the brothers think of me as "equal to a brother, no better, no worse, just our equal, and not just some girl" which made me feel very loved. It seems to vary by chapter and the guys in the chapter...

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by NikkiB

My boyfriend lavaliered me, and though I get along with all of his brothers, my necklace is the only TKE letters I wear. I have shirts with "Tau Kappa Epsilon" written out on them, but none with letters. I was told by a different brother, however, that I was allowed to wear stitched letters, but my boyfriend was not allowed to anymore, because he had "given" me his letters. I'm still not allowed to wear the crest, or know any secrets, ect (which is fine, because i'd never reveal mine). Another brother told me that my being lavaliered made the brothers think of me as "equal to a brother, no better, no worse, just our equal, and not just some girl" which made me feel very loved. It seems to vary by chapter and the guys in the chapter...

Yeah, cause I'm pretty sure "equal to a brother" wouldn't fly with the Deltas here, no matter whose girlfriend you are. Pikes are the only other ones I've seen lavalier around here and I don't get the impression they would consider a lavaliered girlfriend to be equal to a brother either. A brother's a brother, a girl is a girl...I feel the same way about boyfriends of our sisters, too. They aren't equal to a sister...they aren't just "some guy" either in a lot of cases. There's some we all know and love and they're kinda part of the family, but in the way a stray kitten is (not that I'm calling them a kitten or something...it's an analogy)...it's cute, you love it, but it isn't your sister. It's a cat.

Considering a girl to be equal to me looks like they wouldn't apply the "bros before hos" rule...and they always should. I was a "Delta Chi girl" before I started dating my boyfriend...they're my favorite people outside my sisters to hang out with, and I'll go to their parties before any other fraternity's, and if they needed help with something I wouldn't mind helping...but the only one of them that should see me as an equal is my boyfriend...and none of them but him are an equal to my sisters.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

This never stops being funny to me. You wouldn't "let" anyone touch your letters? What if in a crowded elevator somebody bumped into your tote bag with letters on it? You would throw down?

You really don't understand the difference? Seriously?

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

You really don't understand the difference? Seriously?

Exactly! There is a clear difference!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

You really don't understand the difference? Seriously?

So people try and touch your DST letters? They just come up and start rubbing on them? I don't let random people touch ME so I just don't see how this could be an issue.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

So people try and touch your DST letters? They just come up and start rubbing on them? I don't let random people touch ME so I just don't see how this could be an issue.

You've never had anyone outside of your sorority try to pick up or handle an item, such as a letter shirt, a jacket, maybe even your pin, etc.? ("This is pretty, what does it mean?" "Ooh, I like this color!" "Hey, what is this book?")

The point is, for me, it is not okay for anyone outside of my sorority to handle certain items. If someone attempts to do so, I will correct them. I won't be rude about it (although if it is someone who should know better, I may be a little bit), but I'm not going to let someone be all over my things.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

You've never had anyone outside of your sorority try to pick up or handle an item, such as a letter shirt, a jacket, maybe even your pin, etc.? ("This is pretty, what does it mean?" "Ooh, I like this color!" "Hey, what is this book?")

The point is, for me, it is not okay for anyone outside of my sorority to handle certain items. If someone attempts to do so, I will correct them. I won't be rude about it (although if it is someone who should know better, I may be a little bit), but I'm not going to let someone be all over my things.

I don't care if they do. It's not like they're putting on my shirt and trying to perp or anything...I carry a pink GPB water bottle and my friends fill it up for my all the time.

[ErinIsBadNews]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

You've never had anyone outside of your sorority try to pick up or handle an item, such as a letter shirt, a jacket, maybe even your pin, etc.? ("This is pretty, what does it mean?" "Ooh, I like this color!" "Hey, what is this book?")

The point is, for me, it is not okay for anyone outside of my sorority to handle certain items. If someone attempts to do so, I will correct them. I won't be rude about it (although if it is someone who should know better, I may be a little bit), but I'm not going to let someone be all over my things.

So what if you're in a store that sells Greek stuff? Are the sales clerks not suppose to touch it front of you? They obviously stocked the items, so do you have to see it to be offended? I don't get it. Please explain this to me and no I'm not trying to be a smart ass.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by ErinIsBadNews

So what if you're in a store that sells Greek stuff? Are the sales clerks not suppose to touch it front of you? They obviously stocked the items, so do you have to see it to be offended? I don't get it. Please explain this to me and no I'm not trying to be a smart ass.

Those aren't anyone's personal belongings yet, and, as you said, it's their job to do so. I really don't see that as the same thing. What I am talking about is for both of my orgs, I have items that I would consider it rude for anyone not a part of the sorority to handle (my letter jacket, my paddle, my pins, my pledge book (for OPhiA), etc.). I'm not saying that everyone has to feel this way, but to me, I would have a problem with it.

[punkgurl]

I go to a school with a really small Greek system which might account for the loose policy of wearing letters. Girls with fraternity boyfriends often wear their letters- both their Greek letters and the letters spelled out. Although lavialering is not popular at my campus. Men only wear sorority letters on shirts where there is more than one organization-- like our Greek homecoming t-shirts and Greek Week t-shirts. Our girls are allowed to wear our letters right after the pledging ceremony but they often don't have them until Mom's Night (our version of big lis/lil sis is moms & daughters, it's easier to keep track of families). Our girls also have a lot of frat shirts even when they haven't dated a member of the frat. They may have been given to an older member and was then passed down or taken from a frat house back in the day when they stole stuff from each other a lot. We especially have a lot of TKE letters floating around.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

Those aren't anyone's personal belongings yet, and, as you said, it's their job to do so. I really don't see that as the same thing. What I am talking about is for both of my orgs, I have items that I would consider it rude for anyone not a part of the sorority to handle (my letter jacket, my paddle, my pins, my pledge book (for OPhiA), etc.). I'm not saying that everyone has to feel this way, but to me, I would have a problem with it.

So if you went over to somebody's house wearing your jacket and they offered to take your coat, you wouldn't let them?

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

This never stops being funny to me. You wouldn't "let" anyone touch your letters? What if in a crowded elevator somebody bumped into your tote bag with letters on it? You would throw down?

I didn't tell you about the time my former roommate had to move my lettered hoodie in order to get her Organic Chem book?

I was ready to bust a cap on that bitch.