Hazing

[AlethiaSi]

i'm in a local, and i'm sure i'll be nailed to cross for agreeing with the people that discussed wearing pins and doing things for a purpose. NM's have to greet sisters that they see on campus or in the house, but its not an "or else" thing, its just the right thing to do, we greet the NM's as well. It is not emotionally traumatic, its basically all about teaching our traditions, songs, chants and learning about the sisters. I pledged a sorority (a national) a experienced awful awful hazing and lasted about 3 weeks before i finally depledged. I had a really bad panic attack and the pledgemom and member at large gave me a glass of water and told me to get in the basement... or else. THAT is hazing. I understand that some definitions are broader and more encompassing than others and to some, the traditions of my sorority and others that were described are seen as hazing. I would never put any of my girls in a position that was emotionally detrimental or hurtful to their overall wellbeing. It is a dry program and we pair up sisters with tutors if needed, they have library hours and any events are planned around their schedules, including sickness, family and personal. I think that the NM's work for their letters and I know that all are very grateful for the experience... I guess it just varies from chapter to chapter but any activity that is hurtful (emotionally or physically) is unacceptable.