Should I rush?

[UofISigKap]

Research is always a great idea for recruitment. It's far better to go in with at least some idea of what you're in for. With that said, you mentioned most of your friends are non-greeks. I know when I went thinking about and then going through recruitment, they weren't exactly the most supportive. Several actually said, "that's dumb! Why would you want to be with them?!. Now, some of them ask if I feel they missed out by not going through recuitment themselves...what do you say to that? I tell them it worked great for me, but they also had a great time in college without. (Hindsight is a wicked wicked thing.)

I paid for all my sorority costs myself, because my parents weren't against it, but they sure weren't going to pay for something they saw as "extra." I think they saw the benefits of Greek life after I was in. They are still seeing benefits now when I talk about the alumnae group and connections I make professionally.

[icicle22]

I've been also considering how my friends might view the whole idea of me going through rush, but then again, it would be their opinion and nothing more.
I am not too worried yet over the money aspect of membership since I am fairly focused on only rush right now...but I've done a lot of research on it all the same.

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

Originally Posted by icicle22

I've been also considering how my friends might view the whole idea of me going through rush, but then again, it would be their opinion and nothing more.

Just remember that you would be rushing only for yourself, and not for your friends. If your friends are really your true friends, then they will support your decision no matter what. When I pledged Alpha Gam, I did lose a friend or two, but it turns out that they were never my true friends anyway. Your real friends will stick by you. Good luck with rush

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

Just remember that you would be rushing only for yourself, and not for your friends. If your friends are really your true friends, then they will support your decision no matter what. When I pledged Alpha Gam, I did lose a friend or two, but it turns out that they were never my true friends anyway. Your real friends will stick by you. Good luck with rush

Same thing as above, just change Alpha Gam to SDT....

And I've recently semi reconnected with one of the friends that I lost..and another friend of mine who thought it was stupid at first wound up joining Phi Sig at her school the following spring.

[icicle22]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

Just remember that you would be rushing only for yourself, and not for your friends. If your friends are really your true friends, then they will support your decision no matter what. When I pledged Alpha Gam, I did lose a friend or two, but it turns out that they were never my true friends anyway. Your real friends will stick by you. Good luck with rush

Well, that's true. Well, if friends don't support any decision that you make, then they are typically not true friends anyway.

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by icicle22

I've been also considering how my friends might view the whole idea of me going through rush, but then again, it would be their opinion and nothing more.

99% of my non-Greek friends ended up rushing and pledging within 1-2 years of my joining ADPi because they saw what a great time I was having! We all joined different chapters and it was really great to have that connection of being Greek sisters together! Next month, one of the girls is getting married and her bridesmaids are all of us-- a Chi O, DDD, KD and ADPi! Talk about a Panhellenic circle!

[CZAXOTerp]

A benefit that hasn't been brought up too much is the whole networking thing- I know people talk about it, but it really does happen. I helped one of my sisters get a job w/ the company (a major international bank) more than 5 years ago (when we were 2 years out of school.) I got a 3.5K referral bonus and she got a great job- she is still w/ the firm and was promoted to VP this year. That same year I bumped into a guy I went to school who was on IFC we spoke about work & he said he would love to get his foot in the door w/ my firm- I gave him my card, he sent his resume and I got him a job and I got a 10K bonus for that one. Those 2 bonuses more than covered my 4 years of dues!
Even when I was in school I remember helping people find on-campus jobs, etc. I had a great campus job driving the golf course beverage cart- you made a decent hourly wage and got tips- meanwhile it was a job NO ONE knew about on our large campus. I did it my senior year and then handed it down to a few of my younger sisters when I graduated.
I am preparing to move from NYC to a much smaller city, and I have already reached out to women in my chapter who I haven't spoken to in years, to ask for advice on jobs and general info on the area.

I really don't know of many other organizations that afford you a lifetime of nationwide networking opportunities.