Thanks guys! I'll talk to my mom about her status. I think she did get initiated because she was telling me about rushing incoming pnm's.
Thanks for the information about the recs. I know there are tons of posts about recs and I'll try to work this darn search button. It never seems to work for me.
I'm going to try to keep an open mind about the colonizing sorority. It sounds really exciting, but I'm afraid if I drop out of formal rush or something, that I wont experience a true sorority with the big/lil and other activities.
I think just reading one story where this one girl prepared all summer but got heavily cut the first day and eventually dropped out. I'll just try to not think about it much.