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[epchick]

Originally Posted by PinkBabygirl10

it doesn't hurt you at all....Also, the other sororities won't assume things about you and cut you simply because you're a legacy to another chapter. I know of a lot of girls who are legacies and are now pledging or initiated in other sororities than the ones they were legacies for.

I think this a little incorrect. At some schools, especially the more "cut throat" schools, other sororities do cut you because they assume that you'll join your legacy chapter.

I'm not sure if you HAVE to list your legacy status. Even if you end up listing your legacy status (assuming your mom initiated into an NPC sorority) you just let the other chapters that your still keeping an open mind.

Recommendations (or Recs) have been discussed at nauseum on GC, just do a little search for them. Usually there are alumnae chapters of some (or all) of all the school's sororities in your area, so you just call up and tell them your interested in getting an alumnae recommendation, and they'll direct you further.

Recruitment is scary, at times, but really fun at the same time. There are girls who don't get bids at all, and girls who do. %'s of bids do very school by school, and I'm not aware of a universal percentage that I could give you to let you know how many PNMs actually get bids.

Just go into recruitment with an open mind, and don't stress over it too much.

Regarding legacies:

If your mom was initiated into an NPC sorority, then yes, you are a legacy. She can check on her status by contacting her HQ or logging on to their website. Sororities often have a "Legacy Introduction Form" (or something to that equivalent) that they ask their members to fill out when their legacies go through rush.

And as far as listing it on your recruitment application, check out this thread:
http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=70089 and hopefully you can decide for yourself which is the best way to go. I definitely don't blame you for being on the fence on this.

Regarding recs:

Ask your teachers, family friends, people you know in your community/church if they were Greek in college. Another route would be to visit www.npcwomen.org and get contact information for your nearest Alumnae Panhellenic Association. You'll want to start putting together a resume for these women.

Regarding the new colony:

Based on what I've read here, new colonies conduct recruitment after the existing sororities are done with theirs. Don't quote me on that because that's just what I've read here. I'm sure their recruitment dates will be posted once it becomes available. Don't hesitate to contact the Greek Life office.

Don't stress out on this too much. Just because there are more unsuccessful rush stories here doesn't mean that you'll go the same route. There are tons of girls who get bids each year that we don't get to hear about.

[FSUZeta]

otw, you are right. colonizing sororities typically hold their recruitment events after formal recruitment.

usually, the colonizing sorority will make a presentation during the first round of parties during formal recruitment activities. i have heard of colonizing sororities making additional presentations during 2nd round parties too. these information session will be included in the party rotation, so a pnms party schedule might look like this:

party 1-abc sorority, party 2-def sorority, party three-colonizing sorority, party 4-ghi sorority, etc.

during the formal recruitment round the colonizing sorority shares general information with the pnms and explains how their colonization process will work.

some pnms will continue on with the regular recruitment process and if they do not receive a bid or aren't happy with the invitations they receive(and they withdraw from formal recruitment), they will participate in the information sessions hosted by the colonizing sorority. other pnms will decide that they really want to be part of the colonization and will drop out of recruitment and wait for the infomation sessions of the colonizing sorority to begin. other girls who did not participate in formal recruitment will sign up to hear what the colonizing sorority has to say.

good luck with your recruitment!!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

if they do not receive a bid or aren't happy with the bid they receive, they will participate in the information sessions hosted by the colonizing sorority.

Does the one calendar year thing not apply to colonies?

[FSUZeta]

good question. i don't know and i am going to change my statement(which was made before i had any caffeine!) to read invitations.

thanks for spotting that-i would hate to mislead some pnm.

[SWTXBelle]

The best advice you've already been given - contact your closest Alumnae Panhellenic. Many of them hold informational meetings specfically for high school senior girls contemplating rush, and will have actives from local universities on hand to answer your questions. Good luck!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

The best advice you've already been given - contact your closest Alumnae Panhellenic. Many of them hold informational meetings specfically for high school senior girls contemplating rush, and will have actives from local universities on hand to answer your questions. Good luck!

www.npcwomen.com

[sherbertlemons]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Does the one calendar year thing not apply to colonies?

I'm a charter member of my chapter. I believe that the one calendar year rule did apply, so all the girls who ended up joining Kappa had dropped out of formal recruitment.

Hopefully that will be stated for sure during recuitment, but I am pretty sure that is the way it worked.

[amanda6035]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Does the one calendar year thing not apply to colonies?

We colonized in the Spring(04), Formal recruitment is in the Fall. We had a girl come through colonization who had pledged the other sorority on campus the previous fall (03), and then depledged. They would not allow her to join for the one calendar year. So...she came through formal recruitment the following Fall (04) with us, pledged, initiated, then dropped her membership the next semester.

That experience alone gives me a bad taste in my mouth about girls who have already de-pledged another chapter. Not saying that all pnms are like that - but after experiencing it once, it's enough to make you stop and go "hmmm, she depledged them....whats to say she's not going to depledge or drop membership with us too?"

[ChildoftheHorn]

Hey, don't worry so much!

I seriously have MANY different sororities in my family! They are pretty much all in different orgs. which to me signifies that you should just pick whichever one fits you.

Heck, I am part of a re-charter of an NPC on my campus! and no one in my family is in this GLO.

Some people may ask if you have family in any org. - If they ask, just say that you do, but would prefer not to say (unless it is that one). I went through rush and didn't feel at home in any particular one, but with my new sisters I do!

Good Luck!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by amanda6035

We colonized in the Spring(04), Formal recruitment is in the Fall. We had a girl come through colonization who had pledged the other sorority on campus the previous fall (03), and then depledged. They would not allow her to join for the one calendar year. So...she came through formal recruitment the following Fall (04) with us, pledged, initiated, then dropped her membership the next semester.

That experience alone gives me a bad taste in my mouth about girls who have already de-pledged another chapter. Not saying that all pnms are like that - but after experiencing it once, it's enough to make you stop and go "hmmm, she depledged them....whats to say she's not going to depledge or drop membership with us too?"

It sounds like she thought "hey, this is a colony, it will be 180 degrees totally different than an established group!" and it wasn't. When PSS recolonized on our campus, I think they had quite a few women join with that mindset too.

[ClassicBeauty]

Thanks for more info on colonies.

I was wondering, if rush is mid-August, what should my timeline be for getting everything together? Like, when should I be getting recs by and stuff?