Pirate Party!

deadbear80 · #1 03-10-2007, 09:32 PM

Awww Carnation, I'm sorry!

If you haven't already, please send a 'kind' note to that little boy's mother. I will admit that I'm not a parent, but I have had experiences working with children with disabilities and children with behavioral disorders. Some parents are a little 'blind' to how their children behave when they aren't around. While a little note may not really do much, in many cases can serve as a) a warning for how people perceive their child (and really their parenting skills) and/or b) piece of mind for you to know that you could nicely get off your chest that this kid is a terror and not feel so bad when this kid isn't invited next year.

I was once at a party for a darling little girl that I babysat for in college and spotted this little boy's 'girl equivalent'. This child was such a terror she drove the birthday girl to tears multiple times. While I knew it wasn't my business at all, I knew it was really no skin off my back if these parents didn't like me or not; I got their address from the birthday girl's folks (who were really so stunned and upset the mother handed off this girl to her folks and said, 'Please call me tomorrow about how "Brittany" behaved herself today; if she's here any longer I may lose my cool'). I wrote a quick note about what I observed and slipped it in their mailbox on my way home (they apparently only lived about 2 blocks away from the birthday girl). Before Birthday Girl's parents had a chance to attempt to talk to "Brittany's", "Brittany's" mother was on the phone profousely apologizing and offering to take BG's Mom to lunch to mend some fences. Apparently, Brittany was also told to write an apology note to BG (they were both 7 at the time). I know it really gave BG's folks a piece of mind to work this out.

If you didn't really know this kid beforehand, I'm sure you won't care what his parents think of you if they don't receive 'friendly-criticism' well. You don't strike me as the type who would be upset if your son doesn't get to go to the creep's birthday. Sounds like a bad influence.

carnation · #2 03-10-2007, 10:34 PM

His stepmother of 8 months-who is 28--was there for a good deal of the party. She kept following him around and asking him to put down the sword, which he wouldn't, and come play the games, which he wouldn't either. Finally she left for awhile. When she returned, she tried to get him to thank our son (nope), put on his shoes (nope), and leave (gave her problems there too). She whispered on the way out that they have joint custody with the ex-wife; she probably wanted us to know that she didn't create this monster.

We can just see what her future will be like.

Who would have thought that the pirate party report would end up like this?

UofISigKap · #3 03-10-2007, 11:17 PM

Was he any better when she wasn't there? Was taking him home just out of the question for her? ::sigh::

Sorry you had to deal with his behavior Carnation, especially when you had put so much time and effort into the party planning.

BBelleADPi · #4 03-11-2007, 05:51 PM

Carnation,

I'm so sorry that much of the time (and money!) you spent planning for your son's party was ruined. And while, thankfully, your son is happy, it doesn't change what you thought would be some great activities that the others would enjoy. As a fellow party planner, I share your frustration!! But, wow-what a cake!!!

By the by, tomorrow night the two TriDelt's mom and myself are off to the campus to take our girls out to eat, then watch their Video Night dance performances-(I'm still not sure why each sorority's eight minute dance is called "Video Night"-maybe I'll understand after it's over.) We're just glad our girls wanted us to come! (And, of course, get a free meal!)

BBelleADPi · #5 03-13-2007, 04:13 PM

Carnation-I replied to you via email instead of PM, because I sent you several pictures. So, check yo mail!!

firecracker08 · #6 03-13-2007, 04:30 PM

Carnation,
You are so nice! I would have told the little hellion and his stepmom to leave ASAP. I teach so I understand the logic behind inviting everyone. But that doesn't mean that everyone gets to stay. Hope he still had a good birthday!

The boys at my school had a pirate mixer last year and it turned out really well. Fortunately, no booty was stolen!

Tom Earp · #7 03-13-2007, 04:30 PM

Step mommy should have been nice enough to take the little SOB out of there and home.

Let his daddy deal with him instead of screwing a fun time for the rest!

Sorry carnation, sounds oike you did a lot for the party to be a success!

FSUZeta · #8 03-13-2007, 04:41 PM

obviously daddy doesn't deal with the child, or he would have been better behaved. i would venture a guess that the father and the mother both feel guilty about the divorce and overindulge the boy. poor stepmother is left to try to instill some manners and discipline him when he is with them, but is not backed up by the parents.

too bad that they don't realize that none of the family is actually doing the child a favor by ignoring his horrible behavior. this child will end up not being invited to any parties(and rightfully so).