How soon do you get serious??

KSUViolet06 · #1 02-24-2007, 01:46 AM

My bf and I just became *official* a few weeks ago after going on dates for about a month. I take things fairly slowly. It usually takes me a good month or so of dating someone and hanging out with someone to decide whether I want to get serious with them.

Kevin · #2 02-24-2007, 03:31 AM

My parents married after 2 weeks. I think they're somewhere around 40 years at this point.

My current wife and I were together 6 years before getting married. There's no standard. When it's time, it's time.

Scandia · #3 02-24-2007, 09:55 AM

Hmmm, getting serious/becoming official/dating exclusively after a month seems reasonable according to everyone here.

So I did NOT overreact when the guy I dated 3 years ago made a big fuss about "never saying we were exclusive" and "I'm not looking for a serious girlfriend because I do not have a full time job" when after a month of dating, I was not happy that he wanted to keep dating other girls.

While I never assumed we were exclusive, I truly was hoping that I was the only girl he was dating and had interest in . And I wanted to ask him at the end of that 4th date that happened a month after we started dating. If he said that he needed some time, I would have been okay with it. But the way he reacted, I was not happy. I gave him the benefit of the doubt due to the reason he gave. There was a 5th date- but in it we clinched that we were not for each other.

The guy I dated late last year did reveal feelings on the 3rd date which happened a month after we started dating. Hence I do not consider this to be "too much interest too soon". But I certainly was not feeling anything for him other than platonic fondness and appreciation.