Deltas I truly need ya'll help

[DSTKellie]

Who are you?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

^^^ Not really a Delta

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

Soror...you misunderstood my post...I didn't hide the fact I was a parent or my age...I just didn't make those facts the preamble to everything I said or did while around my pros before I was selected...I knew the reputation of my chapter and that I would be ummm "busy" alot and I didn't want the fact that I was a mother be the automatic reason I wasn't selected..when my line "hung out" it was usually at my house because I had my daughter, she was no secret

Your post was misleading because it read like you weren't forthcoming with the information. Then you stated it wasn't hard to not be forthcoming because you went to a large commuter school. Thanks for clarifying that everyone knew your age and the fact that you were a single parent. Well...I guess that's what you're saying.

As far as how "busy" you would've been, MIP is supposed to be a very busy time. So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

[laylo]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Bad analogy. Your girlfriends were probably doing the same things, so of course they would be sympathatic.

Nope, not very many people I know were getting pregnant in highschool or college, so they definitely weren't doing the same thing. And as for losing their virginity, most adults were doing the same thing when they were young. But it wasn't an anlaogy really, it was an illustration of the point that parents' reactions are not always the most accepting, as the other poster was implying. Parents' reactions to their children's struggles can sometimes be worse than anyone else's, particularly parents who tend to blame any issues a child has on their parenting skills.

[Mizunderstood04]

Sorry to hear about your situation and I hope it gets better (hope you feel better as well). I go through a kinda similar situation with my LS's (truth be told, we really ain't that cool). I go to chapter meeting and events that we have and get funny looks and them whispering to each other (simply because the don't like me, I suppose). Anyway, my little $19. 20 cents is that I've always held on to something that one of my sorors and frat have told me "Just because they are a soror, don't make them your sister". Those aren't the ONLY Deltas in the world. Again, I do hope you feel better

Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc.
#1 Mizunderstood
Spr 05

[crimsondanger10]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

Agreed. My prophytes knew I had a child in the very beginning, and were very considerate of my circumstances. Thanks to my line sisters, I made it through my senior year of college, single parenthood, and being online all at the same time. I don't think I could have made it without them (line sisters and prophytes)knowing this information.

I would kinda be at one of my line sisters revealing this type of information later on because we discussed those types of things during our bonding process.

Just my opinion as it relates to my situation.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Mizunderstood04

(truth be told, we really ain't that cool). I go to chapter meeting and events that we have and get funny looks and them whispering to each other (simply because the don't like me, I suppose).

That's really unfortunate. While our organizations go beyond our "lines" and our chapters, our "lines" and chapters are supposed to be a focal point and beginning of organizational learning and socialization. Similar to how our families are the beginning of our learning and socialization as people.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by crimsondanger10

Agreed. My prophytes knew I had a child in the very beginning, and were very considerate of my circumstances. Thanks to my line sisters, I made it through my senior year of college, single parenthood, and being online all at the same time. I don't think I could have made it without them (line sisters and prophytes)knowing this information.

I would kinda be at one of my line sisters revealing this type of information later on because we discussed those types of things during our bonding process.

Just my opinion as it relates to my situation.

sounds like you had a great support system Soror...I guess everyone's "process" is somewhat unique...but now "my soul looks back and wonder" and my LSs and I can laugh as we reminisce on that time...

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

^NEO

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

^^^ Not really a Delta

LOL! I really hate you! LOL

[Reds6]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Your post was misleading because it read like you weren't forthcoming with the information. Then you stated it wasn't hard to not be forthcoming because you went to a large commuter school. Thanks for clarifying that everyone knew your age and the fact that you were a single parent. Well...I guess that's what you're saying.

As far as how "busy" you would've been, MIP is supposed to be a very busy time. So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

Ditto!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Reds6

^NEO

He/she wishes.

Originally Posted by Reds6

LOL! I really hate you! LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

"my soul looks back and wonder"

Whatchu know about Mahalia? My favorite gospel artist EVER!

Richard Smallwood is #2.

[Krisco]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

What's the correlation here? We are based on Christian principles--not Christian scripture.

*Okay I know, that's a whole 'nother discussion that has been hashed and rehashed on here* LOL

Soror Ladygreek, I was making an attempt to say in my own feeble and bumbling mind that christian principles, imho, are highly related and based on actual scripture, hence in my eyes correlated. But of course, that is subjective to what one embraces as Christianity. I was kind of torn in the way I felt about this young lady and her motives. On the one hand Granny laid it down early that christian principles and/or scripture doesn't condone homsexuality...period, but at the same time neither does it 'allow' judging and mistreatment. So at times I basically feel torn quite a bit... !

As Steve Harvey says "He ain't through with me yet"

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

You need to introduce yourself in the appropriate thread.