Waste of time? or Good Idea?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Just wanted to point out that sisterhood events are sometimes used to informally recruit women. Especially if a chapter is only looking for a few new members. It's very convenient...usually members are encouraged to invite friends/classmates they think would be a good addition to the chapter.

Do you think it means that they don't realize that St3ph888 can't join? Would a group knowingly invite a person who couldn't join until the following year?

ETA: I'm paranoid about seeming antagonisitic. I'm sincerely asking, not being rhetorical.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Do you think it means that they don't realize that St3ph888 can't join? Would a group knowingly invite a person who couldn't join until the following year?

ETA: I'm paranoid about seeming antagonisitic. I'm sincerely asking, not being rhetorical.

It seems that way to me. If it is just a few members hanging out and watching a movie or something, that's one thing. But, a sisterhood event with the chapter definitely seems more like recruitment to me. And I know at my chapter we wouldn't have invited a girl to a COB event if we knew we couldn't give her a bid...it wouldn't be fair to her. Unless we were trying to "woo" her ahead of the next formal rush period. So, it seems to me that they don't know she's ineligible.

Not everyone knows about the 1-year rule for de-pledging. So, St3ph, here's what I suggest...if you're friends with the girl that invited you, or anyone in the chapter, and feel comfortable asking her, ask if the chapter knows that you can't go greek until the next formal rush. Maybe say that you would like to get to know the girls better in the meantime if it's possible.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Do you think it means that they don't realize that St3ph888 can't join? Would a group knowingly invite a person who couldn't join until the following year?

ETA: I'm paranoid about seeming antagonisitic. I'm sincerely asking, not being rhetorical.

Yes. We often invited freshmen or girls who couldn't join for whatever reason to open bid parties to keep them interested, if we really liked them.

Steph, I'm not sure exactly what a "sisterhood event" entails in this case. Ours were usually things like going as a group to see sisters in a play or a recital or other campus programs - not anything that could be called a "party." That is, the attention wasn't focused on the rushees at all - they were just hanging out with us in a casual situation. It would help if we knew exactly what they were inviting you TO. I would go, but make sure that they know you can't pledge till next fall. If they know that and they're inviting you anyway, that's a good sign.

[St3ph888]

The event is like what I would consider an open house, I believe you go they give a tour and you just talk with the girls- then they may possibly give you a call to attend their spring recruitment ceremony?? thats what one of my friends who went to another house told me happened.

[PeppyGPhiB]

OK, that doesn't sound like a sisterhood activity at all. It sounds like recruitment. Ask someone that you're comfortable with in the chapter whether it is an informal recruitment event, then state that although you can't pledge until fall, you'd like to come visit with the women anyway, if possible.

[FSUZeta]

i want to reiterate that there is a distinct possiblilty that the sorority does not realize that you must wait until the fall before you can pledge another group. i agree with the suggestion that you contact whomever invited you to the sisterhood event and tell them that you would love to attend the event and get to know more about them, but you wanted them to know that you will not be able to accept a bid until the fall.

DO try to get reccomendations to as many of the sororities as you can before fall recruitment rolls around. it won't hurt you to have a rec. for each house, but it [I]may[I] hurt you not having them. ask former teachers, your friends parents, your parents friends and co-workers, relatives and the girl you know from the swimming pool. as otw told you in your other thread, a rec. written to "abc" sorority just needs to be written by a member of "abc, not a member of "abc" at your school.

[St3ph888]

thanks everyone! I've taken your advice into acount, and I'm going to make it known that I can't accept a bid, and see where it goes from there, if they still want me to go, I guess I will!

I'm also going to try and get some rec's they can't hurt~

Thanks again everyone for all your advice!!

[FSUZeta]

let us know....

[UGAalum94]

Yes, get recs. Having a strong rec. is always good.