teddybear's sorority recruitment

Stef the Pef · #1 01-17-2007, 01:15 AM

Oh yes...I still sleep with most of my puffalumps...problem is, they take up half my bed. There's a cow, a bear, and a puppy from the new collection and two purple bunnies and a chicken that are the smaller older ones.

I've had one of my purple bunnies since my first Easter and slept with it ever since!

Good luck to teddybear!

teddybear85 · #2 01-17-2007, 01:56 AM

thank u all!!
tmr will be the first day of the informal rush. I'm so excited and nervous.
i went to the info session last week and the rho chi said the dressing code would be just casual because most of the sorority girls will be wearing t-shirt and jeans.
so tmr I will be wearing t-shirt and jeans only.
I hope that will work.

teddybear85 · #3 01-18-2007, 03:18 AM

Hi everybody,

I just went through the first day of the rush. I had so much fun.
I took the advice to dress nicer today.. and I wore a black turtleneck, skinny jeans and brown boots. and I wore a pink nova check coat and many sororities said it was cute and I was so happy.

So the following are my feelings about the chapter houses that i had visited.

PINK- I love it. The girl I met in the house was from the same city as I did, so we talked about the city a lot. However, the girl told me that people told her she was only supposed to "greet" only but suddenly people asked her to rush me. So it was her first time to rush people. I asked her lots of questions and I hope she would like me.

PURPLE- I love the house, but the only thing is that I didn't think the girl liked me. At the end of the party the president of this house came to me but we didn't really have a lot of time to chat so I didn't have a chance to impress her.

WHITE- I love the girl I talked to!!! She was so nice and told me so much about the sorority activities. I told her that it's my second time to rush because I didn't get a bid in the fall. She encouraged me and said I should try it again now too. I love her!

BLACK- OKAY, so I talked to about 4 girls and I have no clue whether I impressed them or not. One of the girl that I think she has a really pretty smile seemed very nice, yet I didn't think she liked me. I didn't know why.. it's just my feeling. I love the house though. It's so big.

BROWN- so I actually want to get into this house last fall. However I didn't receive any bid from them. I still love the girls.. I talked to 3 of them and I liked them all. One of the girls I talked to was from the same class with me and I'm gonna see her tomorrow morning!

Well. That's pretty much about it. I do have some preference on PINK, WHITE and BROWN. these are my top choices.
One thing is that. I thought I didn't mention, I rushed in the fall and I didn't receive I bid... I was honest about my situation to many sorority girls, but do u guys think it's a good thing to say? Or the girls would think I'm not good enough to receive a bid in fall and so they didn't want me to be there?
THANKS!

Stef the Pef · #4 01-18-2007, 04:34 AM

I wouldn't really mention that I'd been through rush once before--after all, if you're meeting a new set of girls, you should spend time getting to know the rusher and letting them get to know you. Chances are, they probably already know you've been through once before if you filled out an info sheet on yourself to register for rush.

I'm so glad you had a good day! Keep us posted on what happens throughout the week. Good luck!

teddybear85 · #5 01-18-2007, 04:37 AM

stef,
i didn't mention until they asked me "did you rush in fall?"
i didn't wanna lie because it would give them a bad impression if they regconized me and knew i lied.
i hope it didn't hurt me from getting bid.
so far i only received call from 1 house. do you guys think it's possible to receive calls tomorrow too? or that's it?
i'm so nervous and couldn't sleep now:'(

Stef the Pef · #6 01-18-2007, 04:47 AM

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Originally Posted by teddybear85

stef,
i didn't mention until they asked me "did you rush in fall?"
i didn't wanna lie because it would give them a bad impression if they regconized me and knew i lied.
i hope it didn't hurt me from getting bid.
so far i only received call from 1 house. do you guys think it's possible to receive calls tomorrow too? or that's it?
i'm so nervous and couldn't sleep now:'(

Nah, that's fine. You did good. Never lie about anything.

I don't know how the "call" system works since our Panhellenic rush is very structured, but hey, that's still one house! Unless you absolutely cannot see yourself there, stick with it.

teddybear85 · #7 01-18-2007, 04:57 AM

thanks stef.
yea i'm gonna stick with that ...

here is the thing.. last quarter, i didn't receive a call that i'm not going to any party until like 1 hour before those parties started (and i was already dressed up)
so.. i hope i can still get calls tomorrow

i'll keep updating no matter what

FSUZeta · #8 01-19-2007, 08:53 AM

agree with stef-i wouldn't dwell on the fact that fall rush didn't turn out how you had wished-if it does come up, admit that you did rush in the fall-but you don't have to say that you did not receive a bid-you could say something to the effect of "i did go thru in the fall, but decided that i would rather wait a semester and join in the spring."

the girl that is in one of your classes-depending on the campus rules, outside of recruitment parties, she might not be able to speak to you. if this is the rule, please realise that she would probably love to have a conversation with you, but doesn't want to risk getting you-or her sorority- in trouble.

good luck-it sounds like you had fun at all the houses and made some new friends.

teddybear85 · #9 01-19-2007, 09:41 PM

i'm so happy because the girls there are so nice.
they said if i can't attend the pref night they are gonna invite me for brunch.

twotimestalia · #10 01-19-2007, 10:17 PM

Good Luck! Have fun, and be your sweet self! *hugs*

DeltaGamma23 · #11 01-20-2007, 03:35 PM

Goodluck Teddybear! Can't wait to hear the news

teddybear85 · #12 01-20-2007, 03:38 PM

thanks everybody.
i'm so excited too...
however, will i be still contacted if they decide not to give me a bid?
thanks

AChiOhSnap · #13 01-20-2007, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by teddybear85

thanks everybody.
i'm so excited too...
however, will i be still contacted if they decide not to give me a bid?
thanks

I really hope so, but unfortunately PNMs are not always contacted. We never told PNMs if they didn't receive a bid, they usually just figured it out when they saw all the new sorority members wearing their spring bid day shirts or heard that XYZ gave out bids one day. I'm not saying that this is the best way to do things, but there was a very practical reason for this. Sometimes sororities will do a "rolling" bid system especially if they're close to total. In this system, for example, a sorority might have LOVED say, 8 girls during their pref parties but they were only allowed to bid 3. Let's say one of the three girls declines her bid (or depledges right away) for whatever reason. A sorority may decide to extend a bid to another girl in the following hours/days/weeks. If a sorority called up everyone to say "Sorry, you didn't receive a bid" then it might hurt the chances of another girl accepting her bid later on as she feels that she's been "rejected."

While formal recruitment has a very real sense of "rejection" (unfortunately) the best way to think about informal recruitment is that some girls simply cannot be chosen due to space -- not rejected. I'm sure this doesn't make a lot of difference for a disappointed PNM, but it's the truth. I know that there are plenty of women out there who I'm sure would have been amazing members of my sorority but because we were at or nearly at total. When we could only accept 4 girls, there were always 12 we wanted to bid.

So that's the long, complicated answer to your question, and I hope for good news either today or tomorrow!

#14 01-20-2007, 07:19 PM

Congratulations to you and ALPHA EPSILON PHI!!!!!!!!