Cheating Men

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I think men have cheated for so long that a lot of women are jumping on the band wagon. They cheat too. Men as a whole are viewed as dogs and cheaters, which isn't true. I've never cheated on anyone I've been with. I could have, but I didn't. I've been accused of cheating, but those women that accused me were insecure with themselves anyway. To me it's just not cool, to cheat on someone that really cares about you.

Old thread but interesting.

Okay, then maybe you can explain some numbers to me.

If men have cheated for so long, then who have they been cheating with? Other men? Or women?

I say/ask this because for all the number of men who have been cheating, aren't there the same number of women who are cheating with those men? Therefore, how can women [just start] 'jumping on the bandwagon', as you say? Unless, there are more men on the 'DL'?.


This has been kind of a pet peeve issue with me. To say that ''men have always cheated", then they have to be going out with someone to cheat with. This would imply that for every man cheating there is a woman cheating too, so it's not really a 'new' thing for a woman to cheat.

[06pilot]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

Okay, then maybe you can explain some numbers to me.

If men have cheated for so long, then who have they been cheating with? Other men? Or women?

I say/ask this because for all the number of men who have been cheating, aren't there the same number of women who are cheating with those men? Therefore, how can women [just start] 'jumping on the bandwagon', as you say? Unless, there are more men on the 'DL'?.


This has been kind of a pet peeve issue with me. To say that ''men have always cheated", then they have to be going out with someone to cheat with. This would imply that for every man cheating there is a woman cheating too, so it's not really a 'new' thing for a woman to cheat.

Because when they talk about men cheating they mean on their spouse. The woman may not have a spuse therefore she is not cheating on anyone if she is single herself

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by 06pilot

Because when they talk about men cheating they mean on their spouse. The woman may not have a spuse therefore she is not cheating on anyone if she is single herself

Well, then someone should tell all those people who are in relationships, but are not married, just dating, that they are not 'cheating' when they step out on their mate. So, what is it called when people are dating?

And, don't fool yourself....women play the field too when they are married, single, or dating.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by 06pilot

Because when they talk about men cheating they mean on their spouse. The woman may not have a spuse therefore she is not cheating on anyone if she is single herself

That's what I was about to say. You beat me to it.

I'll add this too, yes women have always cheated but not like men. More women cheat on their husbands now than ever before. That's what I meant by jumping on the band wagon.

[sigmadiva]

Huh? So PB and 06, are you all saying that it is only considered cheating if the man is married? So, if the man is not married, but is in a serious dating relationship then it is not cheating? And, how is a woman's cheating different than a man's? If a man is out there cheating with a woman is she not just as guilty of the act as the man?

I get the impression that you all are implying that a man's cheating is somehow different than if a woman cheats.

I think somewhere in your argument there is a double standard.

[nonchalant]

This thread is off the chain. Honestly and technically, I've cheated on everybody I've been with. I have also told them all too with the exception of one. However, he still ended up finding out. Karma is a B. They all still wanted to be with me too. I was like wow. I ended up breaking off the relationships cuz there is no need in being some place you aren't happy/content. Basically, honesty is the best policy. I've grown and learned that I'd rather be single than to put anyone through anything of that sort. If I'm dating someone, I cut it off immediately if I'm not feeling it. In the words of X-Scape, "Everybody cheats. But you gotta know how. You gotta know when. You gotta know why...." Actually, I don't believe everyone cheats. Just place yourself in the other person's shoes, pray about it, and follow your morals. That way, you'll always come out with the right choice/answer. Yall letting dude have it, lol.

BTW, sigmadiva, you are too funny.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

Huh? So PB and 06, are you all saying that it is only considered cheating if the man is married? So, if the man is not married, but is in a serious dating relationship then it is not cheating? And, how is a woman's cheating different than a man's? If a man is out there cheating with a woman is she not just as guilty of the act as the man?

I get the impression that you all are implying that a man's cheating is somehow different than if a woman cheats.

I think somewhere in your argument there is a double standard.

Sounds like that to me too. Usually PB's post are negative anyway.

[thesweetestone]

What do yall think about the situation Desery described on the last page? That sounds like drama.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Sounds like that to me too. Usually PB's post are negative anyway.

Just because I don't understand his logic on this particular topic, this does *not* mean I think he is being negative.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Sounds like that to me too. Usually PB's post are negative anyway.

I don't think I've ever read a positive thread from you. I often wonder why your screen name is cheerfulgreek. You sound very angry, and it always seems like your anger is directed towards me. I thought we were from the same state?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I don't think I've ever read a positive thread from you. I often wonder why your screen name is cheerfulgreek. You sound very angry, and it always seems like your anger is directed towards me. I thought we were from the same state?

Aww. Poor baby. Are you going to cry?

Did you get my PM?

[Professor]

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[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

Huh? So PB and 06, are you all saying that it is only considered cheating if the man is married? So, if the man is not married, but is in a serious dating relationship then it is not cheating? And, how is a woman's cheating different than a man's? If a man is out there cheating with a woman is she not just as guilty of the act as the man?

I get the impression that you all are implying that a man's cheating is somehow different than if a woman cheats.

I think somewhere in your argument there is a double standard.

sigmadiva, you've got me all wrong. I apologize if I sounded like cheating men are different. Actually I think it's all wrong rather a woman does it or a man. I was just saying that women didn't do it as much years and years ago, and if they did they did a really good job hiding it. A lot of men have always done it and are still doing it. I think women are now starting to do it as much as men if not more. That's what I mean when I say women are jumping on the band wagon. But I agree with you, it's wrong rather someone is in a marriage or a relationship.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

A lot of men have always done it and are still doing it.

This is what I am asking: If men have always "done it", meaning cheating, then who were these men cheating with - other men, or other women?

If we (the general we) are going to *assume* that in the history of men cheating (married or not) that the "other woman" is involved, then I assure you the other woman is cheating also, if no one else, then at least herself.

In order for a person to cheat in a relationship, then there must be a third party - male or female.

I think women are now starting to do it as much as men if not more. That's what I mean when I say women are jumping on the band wagon.

I don't think it is so much that women are just now 'jumping on the band wagon', I think that because women have gained financial independence from men, then we can 'afford' to be more open with our cheating now than in the past.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

This is what I am asking: If men have always "done it", meaning cheating, then who were these men cheating with - other men, or other women?

If we (the general we) are going to *assume* that in the history of men cheating (married or not) that the "other woman" is involved, then I assure you the other woman is cheating also, if no one else, then at least herself.

In order for a person to cheat in a relationship, then there must be a third party - male or female.




I don't think it is so much that women are just now 'jumping on the band wagon', I think that because women have gained financial independence from men, then we can 'afford' to be more open with our cheating now than in the past.

These are men cheating with other women.

I agree. Not only is it more in the open, but women are flat out doing it as much as men if not more, because of more financial independence. This is what I meant by jumping on the band wagon.