Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

lauralaylin · #1 12-22-2006, 09:52 AM

My husband is Catholic, so before we got married we had to take a day long class that asked us a bunch of these questions, and they even gave us a book with worksheets. I wish we had kept them because there was a lot of good info in them. They asked questions like that list, but also along the lines of who are you going to tell our personal info to, would you leave if your spouse cheated, etc. I knew the answers to most of these questions before the class, but now that I have a lot of friends divorcing, I'm realizing how many people don't know this stuff before getting married.

As for the tv question, that could have been a huge one for me. I'm a light sleeper and an insomniac, so if my husband needed the tv to fall asleep, we'd be sleeping in different rooms. Luckily that isn't the case!

33girl · #2 12-22-2006, 10:22 AM

TV in the bedroom kills your sex life. Period. Unless you're a couple who likes to watch porn to get aroused and you only use it for that.

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #3 12-22-2006, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

TV in the bedroom kills your sex life. Period. Unless you're a couple who likes to watch porn to get aroused and you only use it for that.

I don't understand how this is true

...when the mood hits how does the TV get in the way....hell it can actually serve as "sound control" if there's kids in the house....

33girl · #4 12-22-2006, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

I don't understand how this is true

...when the mood hits how does the TV get in the way....hell it can actually serve as "sound control" if there's kids in the house....

You fall asleep watching TV and don't do the nasty.

valkyrie · #5 12-22-2006, 01:06 PM

I can't imagine how people could be to the point of getting married and NOT know these things about each other. I mean, duh.

Also, I think the best way to learn this kind of thing is from experience, not by talking about it. For example, you can have a million conversations about how the household will be maintained, but until you actually live together, you won't really know how it's going to work.

Dionysus · #6 12-22-2006, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by valkyrie

I can't imagine how people could be to the point of getting married and NOT know these things about each other. I mean, duh.

Also, I think the best way to learn this kind of thing is from experience, not by talking about it. For example, you can have a million conversations about how the household will be maintained, but until you actually live together, you won't really know how it's going to work.

I agree. All of these conversations leave too much room for lying.

Drolefille · #7 12-22-2006, 02:44 PM

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I agree. All of these conversations leave too much room for lying.

I agree that experience is important, but some of this stuff you'll talk about eventually. However, I'd say that if your major concern is that your future spouse will lie, there are other relationship issues involved.

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #8 12-22-2006, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

You fall asleep watching TV and don't do the nasty.

ohhhhh well luckily the TV hadn't interfered like that on the homefront....I've always had one in my bedroom since childhood...I actually can't imagine not having a tv in the bedroom....anyhoo how i understand your POV....I guess if that was a problem I would have to boot the tv out.....