Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

[AGDee]

Those are great and while I agree that they are important, they aren't a guarantee. Sometimes, a person changes and their answers to those are no longer the same and you've already said "I do". THAT can cause a lot of issues also. For instance, before marriage "Yes, I will convert to Catholicism and raise the kids Catholic, no problem!" ... after marriage "I am now a born again Christian who gives $5000 a year to televangelists and believes the Catholic church is evil so my kids can't go to that church". OR: "Yes, I agree that we should move to a southern state before the kids start school.. particularly, to North Carolina" becomes "I'm not going anywhere, I don't want to be far from my family or friends and I like my job here." Or "Of course we should split the housework 50-50, and I'll learn to cook and help clean the house" to "I mow the lawn every week, what more do you want from me?"

Yeah, it's important to discuss all those things, it's a whole 'nother ballgame to LIVE the answers to those questions!