How soon do you get serious??

[amanda6035]

My fiance and I have been together since October 2004 - We've been engaged since last December - about 14 months after we started dating. We'll be getting married 2 1/2 weeks shy of our 3 year dating anniversary.

[LeslieAGD]

My now-husband and I clicked right away. After four months, I told a friend that he's the man I'd marry.
A year after that he proposed, and a year and a half later we married.

It's different for everyone; you can't put a timeline on your feelings.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by LeslieAGD

My now-husband and I clicked right away. After four months, I told a friend that he's the man I'd marry.
A year after that he proposed, and a year and a half later we married.

It's different for everyone; you can't put a timeline on your feelings.

This makes me feel so much better now. I knew, within two months, that my boyfriend is The One. Sometimes you just know. We're perfect for each other on a scary level. My parents met on a blind date and were engaged 3 months later. Sometimes, you just know. Other people, it takes time.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by centaur532

This makes me feel so much better now. I knew, within two months, that my boyfriend is The One. Sometimes you just know. We're perfect for each other on a scary level. My parents met on a blind date and were engaged 3 months later. Sometimes, you just know. Other people, it takes time.

I'm the same as you. I knew after 2 months that he was the one I was going to marry. 1 year and a half later I still feel the same way. While we're not officially engaged, I say we're unofficially engaged because we have talked about it so much. We moved in together just a few months after our 1 year anniversary. We know we're going to marry soon, we're just trying to save up money for a ring, wedding, house, etc., etc.

[honeychile]

Lots of good advice, such as Marie's post, waiting a year, everybody's timeline being different, etc. My own advice is to listen to your brain, and not your heart - your heart will fall in line with what the brain knows is right. Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without!

And don't let anyone pressure you to hurry up or to slow down, even if it's the week before the proposed wedding!

[SxyLady07]

I agree with the posters saying it depends on that person. Only he or she knows what is right for her. My mom remarried after 5 years of courting with her husband/fiance/now ex-husband. My grandparents on the other hand were kids (my grammy being around 13 and my granddaddy around 18 (don't quote me for sure on the ages but close enough)) and before my grammy passed, they were married for 40+ years. Things change between their era and our era. The divorce rate is so flickin' high that we need to stick with it. That is my opinion, though

[AKA_Monet]

I was only knew my husband for ~5-6 months before I married him...

But I was 34 years old, had been there, done that in every kind of relationship... I also had a medical emergency in which my now husband emotionally supported me and another a$$wipe that lived in my city abandoned me...

So, if you don't kid yourself into this "magical Disney romantical adventure" story that has been sold to us, Americans, lock, stock and barrell, and have a realistic view of your life and that of your loved one, then you should be fare decently...

Our first year was rough because we didn't do the "waiting game". But with each passing year, we grow stronger... I must say, I truly admire my husband and he bends over backwards for me... But that's me.

And like others have stated, you need to know yourself more than anything else.

And if you read any of my earlier posts before 2003... You will noticed that I truly started to believe that I was NOT marriage material...

[PhoenixAzul]

My mom and dad were a blind date and got engaged 3 months after starting their relationship. Mom was engaged to another guy before, but he was killed in an accident. So she did her thing for a while, then mutual friends set her and my dad up. It was perfect from the beginning. 27 years, 2 kids, 3 dogs, 2 houses later...still together and still in love.

In my own *personal* experience...Pat and I clicked right away. We had a "friends" period because of our age difference, so we weren't "official" for about 4 months after meeting. But we got very close very fast. We met at the right point in our lives and helped each other immensely. Our relationship is pretty atypical, and I think it worked only because of how the two of us are as *individuals*. I KNOW it wouldn't work for 99.9 per cent of people, but I'm so damn happy that we are that .1 %.

[Glitter650]

Originally Posted by LeslieAGD

My now-husband and I clicked right away. After four months, I told a friend that he's the man I'd marry.
A year after that he proposed, and a year and a half later we married.

It's different for everyone; you can't put a timeline on your feelings.

You KNEW but you didn't act on it right away... there's a difference between knowing at 4 months that you feel this is "THE" one and it's right... and calling a wedding planner and buying rings three months in.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by LeslieAGD

My now-husband and I clicked right away. After four months, I told a friend that he's the man I'd marry.

Many of us can relate to that sentiment. There's nothing wrong with that. But actually marrying him after 4 months is a different story.