LilLady's Fall rush 06'

[Lil_ChiO_Lady]

Lillady, don't get discourage...it is totally normal to feel the way you do. It is a new experience for you and everyone else, and sometimes it takes a lil longer to adjust to. Just talk with your sisters at any opportunity you get and...

Maybe you can all plan an outing to lunch/dinner/movie/study groups etc with some sisters on yall's free time.School and other priorities do get in the way, but thats when time management starts kicking in and you definitly become more organized with everything and still have time to go to events with your sisters. Good luck!

[UF56]

I was a founding member of my chapter too! Something we did that really helped was have twins (like big/lil). We also had families too...our consultants matched our twins according to our profiles and then grouped into families...sp it was like have a great big sis, grand big sis etc. Also we developed traditions within our families that are still be carried on now!! We also had a pajamma party/sleep over (with 154 members) at one the apartment complexes general use room and watched movies, made pancakes, told stories...it was a good way for us to have to get to know each other. Another thing your advisors/chapter consultant should make ya'll do is go on a retreat where you only have each other to talk to...no cells or anything like that. A lot of the sororities do this with their new member classes so they all will bond. Just some suggestions for you!!

[knitsnpurls]

Stick with it! While I didn't join a colony, I just rushed this fall as a junior and I was feeling the same thing at first. It seemed like a lot of the other girls knew each other, or lived in the same dorms on campus, and I felt like the odd girl out. It wasn't until our retreat that I felt included. Living off campus, and being an older student, it's a little bit harder to spend time with the other girls, but when you're in cabins in the woods, there are a lot less distractions. I found out that a lot of other girls were feeling the same way I was. By the end of the weekend, I went from knowing 4 or 5 girls' names, to knowing my entire pledge class and a lot of the girls above us (and there's over 100 of us!). Try talking to your advisors (or maybe take it upon yourself) to organize a retreat or lock-in kind of thing where you all can get to know everyone better. You can all share embarrassing stories or interesting facts about yourselves, and other stuff that will help you bond.

I really think it'll get better for you, but feel free to PM me if you need to talk about it, our stories are somewhat similar