Physical appearances you refuse to date.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by KAY10

What if you married what you thought was the perfect guy, but after about 10 years of marriage and two kids he ended up with a gut and stopped taking care of his teath, and he also started to smell like spoiled lunch meat only on the weekends since he didn't have to go to work. LOL. Would you divorce him? LOL. I'm in tears I can't stop laughing. Be honest.

This wasn't directed at me, but what the heck ...

If my SO starts to disintegrate and get all nasty, I'm not going to divorce him over it, but hopefully he'll start wondering why he stopped getting any and clean his azz up. Otherwise, I guess I'd have to be more direct about it and try to force him to clean up, because I don't want to even live in the same house as somebody with bad hygiene issues and doesn't take care of himself. Ew. 'Specially if we have kids. (Sets a bad example and all that.)

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

This wasn't directed at me, but what the heck ...

If my SO starts to disintegrate and get all nasty, I'm not going to divorce him over it, but hopefully he'll start wondering why he stopped getting any and clean his azz up. Otherwise, I guess I'd have to be more direct about it and try to force him to clean up, because I don't want to even live in the same house as somebody with bad hygiene issues and doesn't take care of himself. Ew. 'Specially if we have kids. (Sets a bad example and all that.)

So if his breath smelled like 10lbs of chitlins(LOL) all the time, even if he used listerine it still smelled, you would still stay with him? What if you didn't have any kids with him? Then would you let him go?

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by KAY10

So if his breath smelled like 10lbs of chitlins(LOL) all the time, even if he used listerine it still smelled, you would still stay with him? What if you didn't have any kids with him? Then would you let him go?

If everything I tried just didn't work, then I would divorce him, especially if we had kids. That kind of thing is an awful example to be setting for your kids, I wouldn't want them to turn out all nasty too.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by KAY10

So if his breath smelled like 10lbs of chitlins(LOL) all the time, even if he used listerine it still smelled, you would still stay with him? What if you didn't have any kids with him? Then would you let him go?

I just saw this. LMAO. Why it gotta be 10 lbs. of chitlins? LOL!!!

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

I just saw this. LMAO. Why it gotta be 10 lbs. of chitlins? LOL!!!

What else would smell worse? LOL. Oh, I guess smelling like spoiled lunch meat could be worse. LOL

[icebrain]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

This wasn't directed at me, but what the heck ...

If my SO starts to disintegrate and get all nasty, I'm not going to divorce him over it, but hopefully he'll start wondering why he stopped getting any and clean his azz up. Otherwise, I guess I'd have to be more direct about it and try to force him to clean up, because I don't want to even live in the same house as somebody with bad hygiene issues and doesn't take care of himself. Ew. 'Specially if we have kids. (Sets a bad example and all that.)

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Hey--I've gotten better! Though if by "starts to disintegrate" you mean "will need knee replacements" I guess I'm screwed...

[edler314]

The thing that I try to stray away from is a girl with a lot of moles on her. I feel bad because then my eyes start to stray towards the moles and I don't want to focus on that.

Another thing to ask the girls they mention they want a clean guy but not a feminine one. I have not done this, nor probably will but a man that gets pedicures is this a no no? or a man that uses lotion to have smooth hands is this a no no as well?

[Sophist08edLady]

Originally Posted by edler314

The thing that I try to stray away from is a girl with a lot of moles on her. I feel bad because then my eyes start to stray towards the moles and I don't want to focus on that.

Another thing to ask the girls they mention they want a clean guy but not a feminine one. I have not done this, nor probably will but a man that gets pedicures is this a no no? or a man that uses lotion to have smooth hands is this a no no as well?

I like a man that is well groomed....but when you start to out do me...that's a problem.
Example:
1. If we go to the same hairdresser...problem
2. If you gossip more than one of my friends and start of a convo with, "what in the world is she wearing"...problem
3. If you are trying to dress me and pick out my outfits....problem
4. If you hog the mirror from me....we gonna have to fight, b/c the mirror is MINE!

[RU OX Alum]

I don't know if this is physical apperance or attitude but anyone that doesn't take care of herself or doesn't eat right or exersise regularlry. Not saying she has to be a supermodel rail thin chick but I like to be the bigger one.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

I don't know if this is physical apperance or attitude but anyone that doesn't take care of herself or doesn't eat right or exersise regularlry. Not saying she has to be a supermodel rail thin chick but I like to be the bigger one.

Do you consider eating chitlins, fatback and stuff like that unhealthy? What if she looked good but could destroy a bowl of greens and fatback in 2 minutes. Would you still be with her? LOL.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by Sophist08edLady

I like a man that is well groomed....but when you start to out do me...that's a problem.
Example:
1. If we go to the same hairdresser...problem
2. If you gossip more than one of my friends and start of a convo with, "what in the world is she wearing"...problem
3. If you are trying to dress me and pick out my outfits....problem
4. If you hog the mirror from me....we gonna have to fight, b/c the mirror is MINE!

What if he wanted to pick out an outfit for you to wear that turned him on? Would that bother you?
What if he was getting his hair cut at the same hairdresser before he met you? Would you still be with him?
Daaaaaaaaaaaaamn!!!!!!!!!!!! A brotha can't even check himself out in mirror???? LOL

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by KAY10

What if he wanted to pick out an outfit for you to wear that turned him on? Would that bother you?

That's creepy.

[Sophist08edLady]

Originally Posted by KAY10

What if he wanted to pick out an outfit for you to wear that turned him on? Would that bother you?
What if he was getting his hair cut at the same hairdresser before he met you? Would you still be with him?
Daaaaaaaaaaaaamn!!!!!!!!!!!! A brotha can't even check himself out in mirror???? LOL

You may make a suggestion on an outfit, but anything other than that is NO and quite frankly just plain Ike Turnerish.
No man should be going to my hair dresser. She does women's hair...so if a man was to go to her that would mean that his hair style has some feminine quallities to it....NO THANK YOU!

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by Sophist08edLady

You may make a suggestion on an outfit, but anything other than that is NO and quite frankly just plain Ike Turnerish.
No man should be going to my hair dresser. She does women's hair...so if a man was to go to her that would mean that his hair style has some feminine quallities to it....NO THANK YOU!

When you said hairdresser, I thought you meant the same place not the same hairdresser. What's so Ike Turnerish about a man wanting his woman to wear something that turns him on?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by KAY10

What if he wanted to pick out an outfit for you to wear that turned him on? Would that bother you?

My father told me that I should never let a man you are not married to buy you clothes...

Because he will buy you a dress and say "let me see you in it". And you show him and wear him...

Then he will buy you a shirt and says "let me see you in it". And you show him and wear him...

And then he will buy you a string and will say, "let me see you in it!!!"

Will you show him the string, too?