liltrixx rush at UCF

[texas*princess]

Not to sound grouchy or anything, but college is all about letting go and trying new things.

If you grew up in Gainesville, you probably lived there a good chuck of your life, especially if you have a ton of family there. Go live your life wherever that may take you, because getting out of your comfort zone is the only way you'll see all that is really out there.

I started college in a very small public university that was 30 miles from home. And although I met lots of new people, and joined lots of orgs, it was the same surrounding, the same people, the same everything. I could probably have driven home with my eyes closed.. that's how much of the same it was.

I transferred out half-way into my college career and in doing that I pretty much forced myself to dare to think that my life could be different. The new school was 7x the old one in student population (but is still considered a "smaller" Texas school), and I met some of the most amazing people, tried things I had never done before, and saw some of the coolest places I didn't think I'd ever see in my life.

Guess what?

All my friends who stayed in south texas are still there and they are completely AMAZED when I tell them stories of things I've done, places I've seen, even just where I work. Because they stayed with what was familar to them.

Grow out of your comfort zone and see what life is really like.

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[UCFStefanie]

Congrats on this opportunity. I am sooooooo happy for you!!!

[Lily1909]

Good luck with this possibility, liltrixx!!!

[Not a Greek]

Hi Liltrixx,

After reading your post that said it is hard to take advice on moving forward from all of these women who did find their sorority homes, I was moved to write (so much so that I had to join this site).

Over twenty years ago (in 1984) I went through recruitment at UF. I attended college with several of my best friends from high school who also went through recruitment with me. Of all of us, I think it meant the most to me. I remember visiting my aunt and uncle who were in college at UF when I was a little girl and seeing the sorority members with their shirts on and wanting to be part of it even then. Unfortunately, it wasn't in the stars. I preffed at the sorority I really wanted to be part of two years in a row. Both times I got that phone call. Mind you I was also open to joining another chapter but never received a bid. Two of my friends were legacies to houses and didn't receive bids (one had an active sister in the house!!!) My best friend did become an A D Pi and several others became little sisters at fraternities.

This is not, however a sob story...it's an encouraging one. After recruitment, I joined many clubs in college including Savants and the University Justice Staff. I also did my share of partying. They really were some of the best years in my life. I graduated from UF and attended law school at UM. I also married and have three wonderful children and a loving husband. I am a Vice President and General Counsel for a national insurance company. In other words, while not being in a sorority did leave a void and hurt, my life has not been any the worse for it and I truely can't miss what I didn't have.

My advice to you is to look forward. I hope you do find your Greek home but rest assured that even if you do not, one day the pain and rejection goes away. I was popular in high school, pretty, had 3.8 honors GPA and was member of many clubs. For whatever reason it wasn't meant to be.

I hope this helps. For all of the rest of you, let me say that I am definitely not bitter on the Greek system. I wish I could have been part of it and will encourage my nine year old daughter to do so (hopefully you all will still be around when she needs recs...lol). I just wanted liltrixx to have the view from the other side.

[adpiucf]

What a great post! Thank you for sharing your story!!!