nolegirl88's FSU recruitment thread!

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Originally Posted by pinkyphimu

if you decide after the pref parties and after really looking at why you didn't feel comfortable there that you truly are not a fit, then don't fill out a pref card. then you will be eligible to participate in cob.

I'm so sorry to hear about Greece. But pinkyphimu is absolutely right, go to the pref ceremonies. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain. If things still aren't right then don't fill out a pref card. Don't fill out a pref card, because at a lot of schools, if you receive a bid from a sorority you preferenced you're bound to that sorority for one year (or some other period of time).

Good luck. My best friend, one of the wisest women I know likes to say "if it ain't right, it ain't over" and I think this is exactly what you need to keep in mind. I hope it turns out right for you sooner rather than later.

[Stef the Pef]

Amen on the part about giving pref a shot. What else are you going to do during that time? Pref ceremonies are powerful and are great ways to know whether or not you really "fit" with that chapter or not. If it feels right, fill out a pref card, but if not, don't. I didn't felt like the chapter I preffed was the one for me, but lo and behold, I was snapped up by the right chapter the next day. I'm not going to lie, though, that was one of the toughest decisions I ever made, but it's something you just "know" if you have to make it. If someone's interested in you, they'll let you know if they want you after formal recruitment's over. If not, try COR or colonizing events. Those are less formal and great ways to really get to know a chapter once formal recruitment is done. Just don't write off chapters before going to pref, though! They may win your heart tonight. Good luck!

[nolegirl88]

Well I went to pref at both houses. I enjoyed Mexico, but I still don't "feel it" as I did for Greece. I could not see myself at Germany, even after their pref..I know that's just not the house for me. I could settle for Mexico, or maybe rush again next year (knowing more people and understanding more about the process) and try for Greece (or some other house)..I feel like I was not given many options after the 10 cuts after the first round, so I might want to try again next year with a better GPA and more confidence (I was extremely nervous and sort of shy and awkward the first round). PLEASE give me somadvice on what to do!! My rho gam encouraged me to rank the two I went to and said I didnt' have to sign a bid card tomorrow if I don't want to..if I sign a bid (say, to mexico) and change my mind, does that mean I can't rush next year (sophomore) or that I could never join another sorority (npc) ever?? I don't think I'd want to do COB or informal, I might just want to be independant for a year and meet some people and get a better feel for each sorority on campus.

[pinkyphimu]

i am glad to hear that you did attend both parties and gave them a chance.

Originally Posted by nolegirl88

or that I could never join another sorority (npc) ever?? .

if you pledge a sorority and drop prior to initiation, then you are eligible to go through recruitement for another organization.

Originally Posted by nolegirl88

PLEASE give me somadvice on what to do!! My rho gam encouraged me to rank the two I went to and said I didnt' have to sign a bid card tomorrow if I don't want to...

someone with more experience on your campus can clarify just in case they do something different, but i believe that ranking the sororities after pref means that you will accept a bid from them. that is what binds you for one calendar year and makes you ineligible for cob.

Originally Posted by nolegirl88

if I sign a bid (say, to mexico) and change my mind, does that mean I can't rush next year (sophomore) I don't think I'd want to do COB or informal, I might just want to be independant for a year and meet some people and get a better feel for each sorority on campus.

you will be eligible for formal recruitment next year, just not cob this year.

i hope someone from your campus can hop in and clarify about the signing bids topic.

good luck and thanks for sharing your story.

[FSUZeta]

pinkyphimu was right on the money-if you pledge mexico and depledge you will be able to participate in formal recruitment next year.

if you do not sign your bid card and remain independent, or sign the bid card and depledge, be sure to become involved in some activites on campus-dance marathon, some volunteer organization, and work hard to make the best grades you can. sororities look for good grades and girls who want to make a difference in their community.

also get recommendations-it is not a guarantee you will be invited back, but for some houses, it is pretty much a guarantee you WON'T be invited back.

you know what is best for you-i think that you will make the right decision.

[irishpipes]

Just a caution about depledging - that kind of thing usually gets around and the sororities may hold it against you next year.

[nolegirl88]

I got my bid back today. I thought for sure I'd get a bid from Mexico--they rushed me pretty hard. (I put Mexico as first choice, Germany second--I was told I couldn't SIP that it would kick me out of recruitment) Instead, I got a bid from Germany. I had asked God last night to please give me a sign on what I should do, because I was truly stuck. Well, I think His sign was to give me this bid from Germany. I knew I wouldn't feel comfortable in this house and that it wasn't for me, and I think this was His way of showing me I shouldn't be in a sorority right now. (sorry to those who aren't christian) Thank you all for your support and kind words, it really helped me along. I gave each sorority a fair try, but in the end, I just know that this house is not where I should be. I might give recruitment a shot next year--I'm going to really build up my resume this year, get involved, make grades, and go out and meet people and get my name out there. I had a good but stressful week, and I think what I need right now is just some ice cream and time to start getting ready for classes. Recruitment was an experience, and it's just going to help me grow. Like they say, "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. "