Texas Daughter's Recruitment Thread!

[proudmom]

It brought tears to my eyes as you wrote about how proud you are of your daughter. Like BamaDad's and Southyankee's posts, it's so clear how your attitude and perspective are being passed down and carried on by your daughter. That's probably why they wind up in a happy ending place. These threads should be required reading for every PNM. Maybe one of the mods can post a "required reading" thread that directs PNM's to all the great how-to-do-it-right recruitment stories.

Good luck and I am so hoping she gets her pref invites!

[TexasStar]

The waiting is almost unbearable....been there. Your daughter will do great. I can't wait to find out where she is going.

[BadSquirrelBeta]

Yes, TXMOMs thread has been great!! Here's wishing for another successful day of Recruitment!! Go TXDAUGHTER!!

[LouisaMay]

I just reviewed her earlier comments on Chris and Paula. It sounds like she will be very happy with either of these groups. I cannot wait to hear what happens.

[Peachypie11]

I have been lurking this thread all week because my daughter is going through rush at the same school as Texasdaughter. I appreciate so much the insight and help this thread has provided.

Tonight is Pref night. My daughter got cut today from one of her top 2 sororities. She really likes the remaining sorority, but is fearful that she will not receive a bid from it tomorrow.

To complicate matters, my daughter is a sophmore and got cut today from a sorority where she has many close friends.

I would appreciate any advice you might have to:
1. advise me on how to help my daughter to not feel badly aand to take it personally that she did not receive an invitation to go back on Pref night to a sorority that the majority of her close friends are in
2. and advise me on how to help her if indeed she does not receive a bid from her remaining sorority. She really, really loves the remaining sorority and is very fearful that she will be cut from that too. She is feeling pretty low and scared tonight over tomorrow.

Thanks so much for starting this thread.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by Peachypie11

I have been lurking this thread all week because my daughter is going through rush at the same school as Texasdaughter. I appreciate so much the insight and help this thread has provided.

Tonight is Pref night. My daughter got cut today from one of her top 2 sororities. She really likes the remaining sorority, but is fearful that she will not receive a bid from it tomorrow.

To complicate matters, my daughter is a sophmore and got cut today from a sorority where she has many close friends.

I would appreciate any advice you might have to:
1. advise me on how to help my daughter to not feel badly aand to take it personally that she did not receive an invitation to go back on Pref night to a sorority that the majority of her close friends are in
2. and advise me on how to help her if indeed she does not receive a bid from her remaining sorority. She really, really loves the remaining sorority and is very fearful that she will be cut from that too. She is feeling pretty low and scared tonight over tomorrow.

Thanks so much for starting this thread.

Be sure to let your daughter know that if she is not offered a bid, there is still always later on in the year, or next year, for her to be offered a bid from that chapter. Sometimes it is difficult for the sisters to get to know all of the ladies going through recruitment. Also, let her know that the reasons for her being "cut" from the other sorority was most likely not anything personal, and that she should not be hurt. No matter how many sisters a pnm might know, there might always be a few sisters that she doesn't know, and that can make ALL the difference. Good luck to your daughter!!! I'm sure she will join the right house!!!

[UGAalum94]

Often groups are essentually prohibited by chapter advisors from accepting sophomores or more than one or two sophomores.

It's probably a lot less personal than your daughter feels it is right now.

Often times, the girls who know her may not have as much influence with the chapter as your daughter imagines.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by Peachypie11

I would appreciate any advice you might have to:
1. advise me on how to help my daughter to not feel badly aand to take it personally that she did not receive an invitation to go back on Pref night to a sorority that the majority of her close friends are in
2. and advise me on how to help her if indeed she does not receive a bid from her remaining sorority. She really, really loves the remaining sorority and is very fearful that she will be cut from that too. She is feeling pretty low and scared tonight over tomorrow.

Peachypie, several of us have been there one or more times. About all you can do is focus on the invitations she does have and really cheer on the choices she has...rush as a junior is even harder at competitive schools. I hope with all my heart that she gets the other choice she loves!

[lonestaradpi]

I have been following this thread with much interest and I'm dying to know how it turns out. I know that there are others out there dying to know also! Best of luck.