nolegirl88's FSU recruitment thread!

ThetaPrincess24 · #1 08-25-2006, 08:34 AM

I would highly encourage you to stick things out till the end. While there may be some houses now you dont feel like you mesh with (and we all do during recruitment) you never know when your opinion may change.

I wont give details about my recruitment here and what I ended up doing in the end, but after recruitment was over, school started, and I started getting involved with the other greek activities and what not that went on. My opinions about the chapters I didnt like very well during recruitment changed a lot. I changed my opinions on all them in fact. While I dont regret pledging my sorority in the least, I honestly think I wouldve fit in and had been just as happy in any chapter at my school. There are GREAT members in ALL of them. Try not to let one or two people that you talk to at one chapter and happen to not click with that one day influence you. They are one or two people out of a chapter of 100 or so, plus you'll have your pledge class sisters coming in as well. The members that you did talk to previously at these chapters that you liked are still there and will be there when recruitment is over.

nolegirl88 · #2 08-25-2006, 04:12 PM

I got my invites back--dropped from all of my favorites, leaving only Germany and Mexico. It bothered me a bit, but my rho gam encouraged me to try them out. I had a better conversation in Mexico than I had the other two days, but I just don't feel that is the place for me. The girls were nice, but I think I'd be just 'settling' if I took that house..I really felt the place for me was Greece, where I could be myself and be comfortable. I have a few hours till I have to decide if I want to drop or not. Mexico, I still don't feel comfortable in and I know it's not the house for me. I'm really stuck--don't know whether to settle for a house and hope it turns out well, or to drop out and maybe try again next year (with better grades and such--which I think was a big part of the cuts I got). I'm kind of sad right now, I don't see what I could have done wrong in 13 houses to make them think I wasn't for them.

ThetaPrincess24 · #3 08-25-2006, 04:19 PM

I would encourage you to go back to these two houses and still give them a chance.If at the end of preference night you still feel strongly about it, then simply dont sign any bid card/preference card after your parties are over so someone that wants to be there can get that spot.

PenguinTrax · #4 08-25-2006, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

I would encourage you to go back to these two houses and still give them a chance.If at the end of preference night you still feel strongly about it, then simply dont sign any bid card/preference card after your parties are over so someone that wants to be there can get that spot.

I concur...I would attend preference if invited to do so. Each chapter here has amazing women in it and I truly believe you can have a positive outcome, even though it's hard to see it right now.

pinkyphimu · #5 08-25-2006, 11:09 PM

stick it out through pref. i would also encourage you to consider your reasons for not liking those two houses. i am not asking you to post your replies, but just give it some thought. do you feel uncomfortable at those houses because of negative things you have heard people say about them (they are the smallest, they are unpopular, anyone can get a bid there, etc. etc. etc)? do you feel uncomfortable there because the girls you talked to did/ said something terrible (made fun of other rushees, said your hair looked like a rats nest, etc.)? look at the reasons why you felt more comfortable at the other house...could it be the girls you talked to at the other house were more outgoing or you had more in common with them than perhaps the ones you met at the other houses? in the end, you should make your decision based on what you feel is best for you. i wish you luck! i have heard great things about all of the chapters there.

if you decide after the pref parties and after really looking at why you didn't feel comfortable there that you truly are not a fit, then don't fill out a pref card. then you will be eligible to participate in cob.

AChiOhSnap · #6 08-26-2006, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by pinkyphimu

if you decide after the pref parties and after really looking at why you didn't feel comfortable there that you truly are not a fit, then don't fill out a pref card. then you will be eligible to participate in cob.

I'm so sorry to hear about Greece. But pinkyphimu is absolutely right, go to the pref ceremonies. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain. If things still aren't right then don't fill out a pref card. Don't fill out a pref card, because at a lot of schools, if you receive a bid from a sorority you preferenced you're bound to that sorority for one year (or some other period of time).

Good luck. My best friend, one of the wisest women I know

likes to say "if it ain't right, it ain't over" and I think this is exactly what you need to keep in mind. I hope it turns out right for you sooner rather than later.

Stef the Pef · #7 08-26-2006, 03:34 PM

Amen on the part about giving pref a shot. What else are you going to do during that time? Pref ceremonies are powerful and are great ways to know whether or not you really "fit" with that chapter or not. If it feels right, fill out a pref card, but if not, don't. I didn't felt like the chapter I preffed was the one for me, but lo and behold, I was snapped up by the right chapter the next day. I'm not going to lie, though, that was one of the toughest decisions I ever made, but it's something you just "know" if you have to make it. If someone's interested in you, they'll let you know if they want you after formal recruitment's over. If not, try COR or colonizing events. Those are less formal and great ways to really get to know a chapter once formal recruitment is done. Just don't write off chapters before going to pref, though! They may win your heart tonight. Good luck!

Ocalagirl · #8 08-25-2006, 04:22 PM

OK if anyone knows how you feel its me. I kept getting dropped by my top two choices. But I gave the two chapters I chance that I kept getting invited back to and I must say I was pretty suprised how comfortable I felt at a place that just two days ago I did not want to go back to. A really good friend of mine told me to trust the sororities because they know better than you whether you will fit in or not. I know its hard to realize this while going through, but I swear now my rank of sororities would change which ones would be on top...not all the way but yes some now I'm not sure if I would fit in there. Keep going through it and hold your head up high. I wish you best of luck and hopefully everything will work out for you!

Ashton